I am weary of people who say for example, what I want to do , Mary, is this or that, or well Mary it's up to you to do what you want, and on and on. I feel these people are trying to sell me something on con me as most of the people I know don't talk to me using my name constantly. what are people trying to accomplish by repeating someone's name over and over when they talk to them?
2006-12-10 14:27:18 · 27 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Mary, Mary, quite contrary.....What they're trying to do, Mary, is to hold your attention, but also, Mary, they're trying to control you. It's a bit like invading your space, because if they are not people who are close to you they should be saying "Miss", or whatever. So maybe the way to deal with it is to treat them the same way and use their name every time you answer them. Ok, Mary?
2006-12-11 04:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known people like that. It's a conversation tactic to gain the trust of the person so that they feel that they are being included in the communication. It's irritating as all get out when it's over-used. Perhaps you could just politely say to them, I know you're talking to me..saying my name over and over isn't necessary.
Maybe they've just gotten into the habit of doing it and they don't realize how annoying it really is.
OR
They really like the sound of your name, Mary. Do you know what I mean, Mary?
2006-12-10 22:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by somewherein72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry! I'm one of those people. I am so horrible at remembering names that I've found my best bet is to keep using the person's name in conversation as much as possible when we first meet. Thank you so much for letting me know how it might sound to other people! I promise that I am not trying to sell you (or anyone else) anything!
2006-12-10 22:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by bk's mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate that too....they are trying to get your attention by using your name...this is something that is used in sales to try to convince you that they are truly interested in you and that you will benefit from whatever they are trying to get you to buy. It's mostly an attention getter, but if you can smell the BS a mile away then that's all the better for you. It is a proven fact that people like to hear their own names so the people who are taking to you are trying to use it against you...for instance..i' am in sales so I constantly get people to say "ok" after me. that gets them in a yes mode. it's all mind games, mary. lol.
2006-12-10 22:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by Shugsmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you: whoever uses your name unusually often in addressing you, as in the examples you cite, is overusing one of the most hackneyed items of conventional wisdom for people in sales -- the assumption that the one thing that a salesperson can say to a prospective customer to which the prospective customer will always react favorably is the prospective customer's own name.
It's transparent, it's trite, it's manipulative, it's offensive, and it insults your intelligence. In my own case, there probably isn't anything a salesman can say or do that will have a greater tendency to turn me off to him and his product or service than to give me the impression that he's trying to reel me in.
2006-12-10 22:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they sound phoney and annoying. its a known fact that people who use your name alot are actually trying to be friends with you but when they go to the excess like that they are phoney and want something. They are buttering you up for a reason and when someone acts that phoney towards me they lose out.
2006-12-11 12:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its just how they are used to talking. I know someone who says "right?" after every sentence! Yeah, it gets annoying, but if you like the person you put up with it.
2006-12-10 22:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do agree it's very annoying and redundant. Once a person says your name and you respond, then it's established they know who they're speaking to and have your specific attention.There is absolutely no need to keep repeating someone's name.
2006-12-10 22:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they have a bad memory and the only way to remember your name is to repeat it incessantly. It is annoying, though.
If it's done by someone I don't know, I feel like they're talking down to me, like I'm a kid, and that pisses me off.
2006-12-10 22:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by Not You, Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a new person, I would say they are trying to remember my name... and give them some time...
But if it is someone I know well... I would play the same trick on them till they get bugged of it.... (giving them a taste of their own medicine!)
2006-12-11 02:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋