Who is right?

Question

I have this friend who is totally blind and she has a 1 year old child. She is a single parent who is constantly yeling at her daughter. Every five minutes she is telling her child how bad she is and all kinds of things! On a good day she plays with her and spends time, but on a bad day she is always yelling at her. My friend chalks it up to the fact that, she is the only one taking care of her daughter and when she does wrong, she disciplines her. Another friend of ours named sean who she talks to also, says that she is verbally abusing her child and wants to call child protection on her before she hurts her daughter. My friend tends to also take her anger out on her child, knows that she nedds to stop, but han't quite gotten there.
Who is right?

For every one else who is answering this question, my friend does get a break when she needs it, her family and friends watch tiara for her. I personally feel that she needs help. She also says that she does ot care what people say, tiara is HER child!!!

Answer 1

It sounds like your 'totally blind' friend could use some assistance in raising a 1 year old child. It's likely that she's overcompensating for her lack of ability to see what the child is into and doesn't mean any maliciousness toward the child. Verbal abuse is as scarring, if not moreso, than physical abuse. If the child is being harmed mentally, then perhaps asking someone from CPS to visit them could help, but it could also be a more signifcant strain upon your blind friend.

Answer 2

maybe if child services are called it will make her snap into reality. either way, if you feel that the child is in any sort of danger you should try and get some help--not necessarily child services, but maybe a support group or something like that. Maybe she just needs someone to babysit for an hour every week so she can have some adult time and that would help. The child's safety is the most important thing though. If you feel that she's in danger, don't hesitate to get her out of it.

Answer 3

It sounds like your blind friend is overstressed. Could be too that she was 'disciplined' in this way when she was a child. Suggest to your friend that she get some help, i.e. parenting classes, counselling etc. If she will not do so, call child protective services because if they determine she is verbally abusing her child or if she admits to needing assistance, they will put her with needed services.

Answer 4

I think that any one that is abusing child in any way should be reported. I know parents get up set with their kids and yell, but if they do it all the time its wrong. If your going to do something about it just don't say any thing about it t6o any one. Because if your friends you wont be for long. Don't think of it as hurting your friend think of it as helping a child.

Answer 5

Not only does Child Services NEED to be contacted, the mother needs some serious counseling and some parenting classes, and Children Services would make these conditions to complete in a timely manner if she would like to keep her child. Emotional abuse is the worst kind of abuse, (aside from sexual which is obviously not included here.)
CALL CHILDREN SERVICES NOW!!

Answer 6

Someone should at the very least talk to her. A child can act up and all but a one year can't possibly be doing enough to be yelled at all the time. She needs to recognize the problem before it is too late to fix it. Sounds like she needs counseling.

Answer 7

Your friend Sean is right. The child doesn't need to be verbally abused just because your friend is a single parent. Your friend needs to get help before her verbal abuse becomes physical.

Answer 8

Sean is. A family member of mine did the same to her little girl over the years. Over and over, bad girl, bad girl, fat girl, lazy girl, stupid girl.

I thought of calling social services. Never did because this was my own family. I so wish I had!

The little girl is grown, and living far, far away. Bitter, and sad, and didn't even want to come home for her Mom's funeral. Very promiscuous, filled with hate. Oh, how I wish I'd had the courage to help her!

Don't let this happen to that little girl. That Mom needs help, and the little girl certainly does. Be there for that baby!

Answer 9

You should defiantly do something about it and call child protection. People with anger problems need therapy and help. If you don't do something soon then her daughter could really get hurt. Don't be guilty that she's your friend, she'll understand later on.

Answer 10

I think what she is doing to the child is wrong! It is not the child's fault, she acts how she is taut! calling child protection is a bit extreme, though. Try talking to her, if that doesn't work, then i guess call.