I seriously need advice! I met this GREAT girl, we went on our first date. Everything was perfect...we went to a sports event...went clubbing afterwards...dancing...drinking...kissing...more kissing...more kissing.
We get to her place and she asks me to come in. Well...more kissing is involved...she hops on top of me and starts grinding with our clothes on. That goes on for a while and finally our clothes come off.
Here's my problem, I think it ruined any chance that I had of having a serious relationship with her. She sent me an email saying that it was a mistake and she needs time to think. What can I say or do to show her that I would like to see her again and it wasn't all about sex. It was a perfect night up to the time we had sex. That was perfect too...but now we're left feeling guilty for something that we both really had little control over. Hormones...one or two shots...some beer...and a little wine took over! I really like this girl and I think she likes me
2006-12-10 14:11:38 · 11 answers · asked by Italian_Guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Call her, and meet her at a non-intimidating place like Starbucks at 2:00 in the afternoon, so you can make sure not to repeat the first night. Explain that you believe that you two could have a future, and that she's to important to just have a one night stand with.
2006-12-10 14:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dont get offended but im gunna be pretty strait up, i just call em like i see em.
first of all she found you sexually attractive if she went to bed with you on the first date.
you say she initiated it so this is her telling you that its okay
she changed her mind, which is okay because she is a woman and women can do whatever they want without being questioned.
you say that she is feeling guilty, thats where you are wrong.
you also say that sex was perfect, if she thought the sex was perfect you would have no problems getting in contact with her. so my theory is that if she initiated it on the first date she was really into you.
its up to you to figure out what happend after that. good luck!
ohh and you should never take a woman to a sports event on first date EVER!!!
2006-12-10 14:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by *juicyjellybean* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't really see where the guilt is coming from. I think that she's worried about how you will view her. So be straight forward with her, and let her know where you're at and find out where she's at as well, and take it from there.
You need to let her know that you are interested. There's nothing wrong with enjoying each others bodies. You both had chemestry and you had a moment of passion which you both enjoyed. There's nothing wrong with that.
Once you find out where each other is at, you can then figure out whether to pursue something further.
2006-12-10 14:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by -J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, "we both really had lttle control over" is a copout. If you can't control yourself, don't go out. That's the excuse people use when they cheat..."it just happened"...clothes don't fall off and peniii don't enter vaginas with no one being in control...
Beyond that, go talk to her...tell her face to face what you said here about the dating not being about sex, and that you would like to continue seeing her because you had a good time (not counting the sex)...state your feelings, but don't beg or seem needy, and then leave it to her to decide...if she's willing to blow off something with potential, just because y'all both got too aroused and carried away, you can't change that...hopefully she'll give it a go though.
Good luck!
2006-12-10 14:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Woahh thats quite a situation...you should talk to her about it. But it was pretty wrong for u guys to do it on the first date...thats not what a first date should be about...
2006-12-10 14:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it must be nice to meet a girl with that sort of self control.
hang in there. i have a sneaking suspicion that the wait is going to be well worth it
2006-12-10 14:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by dirtyoldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So tell her everything you just put here, and hope she feels the same. Good luck with it. :)
2006-12-10 14:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it up brother.You are just another in a long line of guys she has done this to.
2006-12-10 14:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Bellows 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
keep pursuing her and keep your clothes on for the dating period.
2006-12-10 14:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by Kathryn W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just open up and talk to her. communicate
2006-12-10 14:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋