I met a man from a yahoo group. We seem to get along great on messanger. He wants to meet in person, but I'm not sure. There is a huge age difference of almost 30 years. Is this a good idea to meet in person? Also does age really matter in a relationship?
2006-12-10 13:59:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are over 18, ask a friend or parent you can trust to come with you the first time you meet the guy.
If you are under 18, that is way illegal and way ignorant.
2006-12-10 14:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Fur and Fiction 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age matters for sure. 30 years is a big gap and you never really know about THAT person on the other end of the line you are talking 2. On-line relationships are great because all you can do is talk. It is NOT a good idea to meet this guy in person unless you pick a very neutral place AND are accompanied by a parent or guardian. There are alot of SVP's out there ( sexually violent predators ) and you DON'T want to meet one. Please be very careful and thank goodness you have the common sense to think and ask questions.
2006-12-10 14:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, age matters in a relationship especially if you are the younger one! He has not only lived almost a lifetime longer than you, he probably has mountains of baggage. Why would you give your youth to someone you will not know, unless you can invest many years to unravel what he has done, where he has been, and if he is even worthy of your giving the best years of your youth to. Nothing beats growing up through the years with someone closer to your own age. Be very careful...at his age he should be meeting people in another way!
2006-12-10 14:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u should not meet him. He could be a physco, rapeist, perv. U never meet people online. And age matters when its a 30 year difference. Thats old enough 2 be ur father. Think before u act. U don'tknow this man and it could just lead to trouble.
2006-12-10 14:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by #1Cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal security is a very important issue when it comes to meeting someone in person that you met online. First of all, I would suggest doing some research on the individual. Find out where he lives, get a number, any personal information on him would be good. Share this information with a close friend just in case things get weird.I would also recommend that you meet in a public place and let a friend or family member know where you'll be. It wouldn't hurt to have them sitting outside in the parking lot or something. In the event that you decide to leave somewhere else they can follow. You can't ever play it too safe. Getting him to meet with some of your friends would be a great idea too. I think most people that have a hidden agenda would probably be a little weird around others who are outside of their "target". Exchange photos with him as well. I good idea is to find out where they work. Ask for someone in HR and state that you are conducting a credit check for yada yada yada and you just need for someone to verify that he is employed with them. Get dates too. that's all. Most criminals have short employment periods, numerous jobs, and felons don't carry IDs.
2006-12-10 14:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By her telling you these things is the reason you trust her if she didn't, it would come up sometime and it would be something you would of been unaware of and left you wondering about the whole relationship and if she had been screwing on you the whole time.....And yes maybe you should become a little more out going and you will see that flirting is flirting and can be left at that...
2016-05-23 03:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES age matter. 30 is way to bigg of a gap. Stop and think for a sec. He might be nice but can't you find that in some one that suite's you? I wouldn't recomend it if you where 18 no if you where 25 nor 30 nor 45. that's too big of a gap.
2006-12-10 14:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess DOESN'T MATTER only lies in the real world. if you want to meet him, better you are choosing the meeting place so that you can maker sure you will be safe when meet him. Online love is so unreal that i was just ending one. people behind the computer are not the one you thought as.anyway, good luck...
2006-12-10 14:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by eureka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Age is not that big of a deal, but 30 years is kind of a lot. If you are under 30 I would say don't meet him in person. My parents are 19 years a part, but they met when they were both older. If you are young I would not do this... dunno..
2006-12-10 14:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by I carry your heart with me... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is messing with somebody 30 years younger it means that there is something fundamentally wrong with him.
DON NOT GO TO MEET HIM!!!
2006-12-10 14:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by cool guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋