Why are men afraid to date woman's who have children?

Answer 1

Because doing that introduces the risk that we might have to pay for someone else's mistakes. I know no one is perfect, but seriously . . . who wants to take up such a burden? I would not, that's for sure. I'm only 21, and I'm in college trying to start a life for myself and my future family. But you would be surprised at how much of the dating pool at my age consists of single mothers. It's very sad, but still I probably would not consider dating a woman with children before 30 years old. And women without children would still be preferable. Good night!

Oh yeah . . . and whoever said the reason is selfishness is pretty far off. I don't think I could help the feeling that women with children would be after someone to just pay the bills for them. A meal ticket, in other words. How could I trust someone like that? Most guys think the same way about it, I think. And I have another reason too. All my life, the girls I've liked have either been dating chumps or turning me down because they were really looking for chumps. I'm working hard to get my life on track so I can maybe have a family one day. When the same types of women who turned me down before turn up single and with children, and want to date me, it makes me feel even worse. It makes me feel like they're only willing to see me because I've got a future ahead of me and no one else will go out with them. So there you have it. Now, if I REALLY liked the woman, I might consider going out with her even if she had children. But it would be much more difficult for me to handle it than otherwise. It all depends on how you happened to end up single with children.

You may not be like this, but I notice that many women with children are so frustrated with their situation that they insult men who will not date them. They say stuff like "REAL men don't care if you have children or not." Well, there are very good reasons why men are reluctant to date women with children (as I kind of outlined above). Men who object to relationships like that should not be insulted.

I realize this may have discouraged you somewhat, but that was not my intention. Not all men think like me, but I will not stand by and allow my point of view to be vilified. And don't give up, because some men will date you. I would imagine that you would have some luck with single fathers more than you would with single men who are not fathers. Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm not but then that me. Some men don't want more children and the responsibility that goes with them or ANY children at all.

Answer 3

because some men don't want that baggage. Not cool, but true. Some men are afraid of committing to a women...never mind the risk of hurting a women and her kids...

Answer 4

Because a lot of men are willing to make a child, but not take responsibility for it.... much less take responsibility for someone else's child. Sad, but true.

There are some good guys though. My aunt remarried a guy who had kids of his own... and he loved her kids too. My aunt has passed away and he is still around and good to her now adult children.

Best Wishes,

Sue

Answer 5

Because men know that in order to get what they want in the relationship, they will have to wait until the youngest enrolls in graduate school. They do the math, and it looks to you like fear.

Answer 6

They don't want another man's responsibilities!

Many women are looking for a meal-ticket for themselves and their children.

Answer 7

cause men who don't have kids don't understand what it's like to have kids...but not all men are like that some will treat your kids as if their his own...i think it has alot to do with their maturity level b/c if you think we are about to put you before are kids that is just straight selfishness and some men just can't take on that responsibity...but each person has their own reason as to why