i have been with my botfriend for 7 months and i really love him. we have had sex with condoms before but im still afraid that i am going to get pregnant. we both say that we are going to stop, but sometimes things get to over whelmed we end up havng sex. i want to get on birth control so i dnt get pregnant how should i tell my mom, she thinks im still a virgin. im afraid if i tell her, and im afraid she wnt let me see my boyfriend again, but she says she'll be 100% supportive of whatever i do and she wont think anyless of me if i want to have sex. i have a talk to her already about it, and i lied and said i was a virgin. now i dont think she'll trust me.
2006-12-10 13:03:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 15. iv talked to some of my friends who've had sex, and they have said they told their moms that they're periods are heavy and they took them to get bc. i want to be honet with my mom though because she trusts me and my boyfrined. she treats him like hes part of the family and i don't want the whole sex thign to change the way she feels about us being together.
2006-12-10 13:09:35 · update #1
Don't have sex again unless you marry him. If you really love him, you'll get married, and waiting will be worth it.
2006-12-10 13:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by ♥TootsieRolls♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need some condoms of your own with spermicide. You know the kinda condoms I'm talkin' about, I've seen them before, and I know they can be used more than once. They kinda condoms your boyfriend uses should be a backup for when you run out, or you gettin' anal or givin' a *******. Second, you need to tell your mom, all a loving parent ever wants is for you to be happy but also to be careful, you know that the truth can really let things be easier for you. All you need to do is sit down with your mom and talk things out. Remember to let her say what she wants in her angry monologue, answer questions she asks and just pay attention, trust me this will relieve a lot of stress. Also, the best way to start the conversation is admit you have lied to her, and let her know that you are only human and you can't always live up to your parents expectations.
2006-12-10 13:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by shai brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In response to a previous answer, yeah getting married would be great in a perfect world, but teens have sex! Its the truth. Its good that you have already talked to your mom about it, and the fact that she said she supports you leads me to beleive she is reasonable. It doesnt matter if you have already done it, it matters if youre protected for next time. My mother took me at the age of 15. You dont have to get into details, just tell her youre curious and you hope she as supportive as she said she would be. Im sure it will be fine.Just be careful if you dont.
2006-12-10 13:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by angelmyer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) You should always be honest with MOM.
2) You are already having sex, so her not helping with pills and thinking "if you don't have pills you won't have sex" is a moot point.
3) Help her see your logic.. that you are having sex and you do not want to get pregnant... That actually shows responsibility on your part.. good for you... Although, I may not agree you should be having sex yet.. that's a moot point also..
4) In general, your MOM has been around longer than you and you should benefit from her experiences in all things... especially men and intimate relations... she may be upset with you on this issue...but GIVE HER A CHANCE... She's been in your shoes..
- good luck.
2006-12-10 13:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are too young to get birth control from a doctor on your own, then you are really too young to be having sex, no matter how "in love" you think you and your bf are. You are not emotionally equipped to handle it obviously, since you can't seem to control yourself even when you know there's a chance you'll get pregnant. And if you're too young for that, you're too young to raise a child. Think about it.
2006-12-10 13:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kodoku Josei 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in some states you don't need your parensts permision to get birth control,, do u have a local planned parent hood in your area,,, call them they can help you with your parental concern,,,
you are a smart girl for thinking before something happens,,, your mother should be proud at least you are looking to prevent a pregnany,, that does show you are mature on that end,,
but i do agree you should wait until you are ready , ,cause there is no fool proof birth control,,, expect not doing it,,, that is the 1000% garentee,, LOL,,,
2006-12-10 13:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by thanks to our brave troops, 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it was a mistake to lie in the first place, but u should tell her the truth. u can redeem urself by coming clean. at least you're trying to be as safe as possible, your mom should stand behind u. if u really wnat to have sex, her approval will mean nothing anyway so it would be best for her iff she helped u out. i dunno if ur dad if an issue but it should be a mother-daughter thing. if she forbids u from seeing him again, well then u have to reason, and if you're really determined u'll find a way....
2006-12-10 13:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her about it truthfully, but since you don't want to tell her you are sexually active(and it is your choice), just tell her your periods are irregular. That way, you can save the lecture(maybe) and be safe too. Good Luck.( Its good to hear you are using protection since you are active! There is nothing we can say to make you do otherwise, I am just glad to hear it.)
2006-12-10 13:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Add it in the details and I'll come back to change my answer.
2006-12-10 13:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Green-Eyed Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋