I asked her out and her response is confusing, tell me what you think, i need help!!!!!?

Question

My friend asked me out so i can buy her ice cream and i'm like yeah fine, i wanted to go today but she was like 'nah i gotta stay home to clean up' and we ended up changing it to friday (because i have work tuesday, wednesday and thursday). I like her and i want to start going out with her, she gave me signals that she liked me last week but now she's acting like she doesnt really care when i call her. Btw is it good to flirt with her over the phone / online in this situation? What do you think?

Answer 1

Hey man, maybe she really does like you, and something came up at home where she really did have to stay at home. It does happen. Girls get grounded, have chores, and whatnot too. I thought the same thing a long time back, and because I stuck it out, I have been with her for like 3 years. It turned out when she said she had to stay in, she really did, taking care of her Grandma with Alzheimer's. And yes, there is never a bad time to flirt, just don't act over zealous or clingy.

Answer 2

You mentioned that you are friends so I am guessing that you've been friends for awhile. I am a firm believer in just asking directly instead of trying to figure out stuff like this by reading signals. If you feel comfortable, on Friday when you go for ice cream, why don't you just come right out and say, "Hey, we've been friends for a long time and I really value our friendship and I was thinking from something you said/did (whenever it was) that maybe you wanted to start something more than being just friends. I'd like that if that's what you'd like to do. If not, then let's keep being friends." Communication is a big part of any relationship. You've got to be able to talk to one another. If not, you run the risk of possibly losing out on a great relationship through something as trivial as misinterpretation. I believe this applies even if you've been friends for a short period of time. If she continues to be wishy-washy (like the acting like she doesn't care when she calls you) then you have to ask yourself if she's really the kind of friend you want to keep anyway.

As far as flirting goes, I don't think there are any limitations on flirtation. Go for it, no matter where you are flirting.

I've said this last part to a lot of people. You're going to have to kiss a few frog-ettes to find your princess. What that boils down to is that you're likely going to get your heart broken a few times. But that is all part of life. Hang in there. If she's not the one, that just means there is a better girl out there for you. Good luck. And if you can, let us know how it goes on Friday. :)

Answer 3

it's good that both of you flirt, be it on the phone or online. but nothing beats meeting that someone in person, having the chance to see instant reaction, batting of eyelashes, winking, that smile or the laughter - it's a different experience altogether. you will know the instance you make the connection. or, maybe, it gets you wondering about her feelings further. okay, if she asked whether you could buy her ice cream, that's flirting and could be an indication of interest. well, girls need to play hard to get. you need to play harder to get her interested. maybe, she thought you weren't keen and didn't want to seem as though she's eager. you need to explain to her that work on tues, we and thurs are crazy and you often feel very tired after that. don't just suggest friday as though you are doing her a favour. make it known to her that you are interested in more ice cream outings... you have to let the girl know... she's made the move and you have to keep the track blazing. way to go, man!

Answer 4

Well, all I can say is that it's not that she's not interested. She's either busy, or she's trying to play hard to get by throwing off the dates, or whatever. Trust me, she cares that you're calling her. In fact, she probably just feels relieved. All I gotta say, is keep doing what you're doing. And if the dates keep getting put off, it wasn't meant to be. Flirting -- it's good no matter what. She's smiling on the other end of the phone, and the computer. Bottom line, is you both are interested in each other. Don't let anything get in between your plans. Just go with it, and be smooth! Goodluck!

Answer 5

Flirting isn't bad, but make sure that you flirt in person. I started the flirting on AIM once, and that became the only time that the relationship was real. You DO NOT want to have a sole-internet relationship, trust me.

I think she's trying to play hard to get, believe it or not. She's trying to be mysterious and get you hooked, because she's probably had a boyfriend before who has chased her and then lost interest - so this time, she's making you chase her longer. Tease her back. Be receptive, but not too revealing. And have fun. :)

Answer 6

Maybe she is upset why did YOU not ask her out..if u actually like her..maybe she feels weird being the girl and asking a guy out and u have to show more that u care and how much u like her and or maybe she is having a cold feet talk to her and let her see that it will work out.

Answer 7

its all good to flirt with her anyway you can if thats what you are wanting to do and she likes it. she could just be playing hard to get, acting like she doesnt care and it makes you think about things and think about her all the time... it can drive a guy crazy but they always seem to do it.

Answer 8

Well she's just playing hard to get!! Flirt with her on the phone and she mite react more willing to go out with you next time you wanna ask her out!!

Answer 9

I'd wait and see how friday goes before judging too soon. Go with the flow man.

Answer 10

don't call her cuase you will seem desperate, and you don't want that, besides why call her when you can talk to her in person? through her singal she is basically telling you she likes you but she ain't completely sure if you are right for her( go figure), flirt with her when you see her, but don't be too into her, just be cool, don't be DESPERATE.