I need help with my 7 year old stepson that has been saying some real disturbing things.?

Question

I have a 7 year old stepson that came for visitation with his father he comes every 2 weeks and today he said something that really disturbed us he has never said anything like this before. He wanted to talk to his dad in private alot today and during one of the private chats he said " I want to cut myself" he was upset about having to eat all his food and sometimes he feels like we are being mean to him but he never eats enough he only eats mostly junk food and we are trying to break him from that habbit and he is mixed up his mother is remarried and it seem like every 2 months her husband leaves and she brings another guy into the house. The man she is married to now we believe is a bad influence on my stepson. He has had problems with drugs, and is in trouble with the law most of the time. And my stepson for some odd reason seems to look up to him and when people tell him how he is he has an excuse for everything we say. I think he got the cutting thing from his moms sis is 16 -17

The new husband sttole off my stepson, and my stepsons mom and went on a crack binge the reason we know this for a fact is my stepsons mother told us and she also told us that he is emotionally, and mentally abusive to my stepson and my stepson has told us that he is physically abusive to him. But my stepson still makes excuses for him example my stepson punched his brother because they were wrestling his brother was crying then he grabbed my stepson up by his throat and put him up against the wall and my stepson said he put his foot on a nail on the wall so he really wasn't off the ground. The stepdad has been in prison on a kidnapping charge and he has been in and out of jail all the time. When my stepson was 3 I took care of him when the stepdad and my stepsons mother were both in jail together I had my stepson for over 6 months and his mother tricked my father into giving him back to her. So the stuff I am telling you is not accusations it is the facts.

Answer 1

Get him to a counselor right away! There are a lot of changes in his life right now and he needs an objective person to get his feelings in order. Also, if his mom's new man is a loser, you and your husband may need to revisit the custody arrangement and try to have your stepson most of the time. He should not be around a man who is a criminal and a drug abuser.

Answer 2

Hi!
I would have a talk with his stepmom about leaving the dad, state why you want that to happen, give her good reasons, and don't say bad things about him, just that she should be careful..also another good idea would be to get the custody of the boy!
I know that suing them for neglect would be very hard, time wise and money wise, but in this case it may be worth it so you can take care of the stepson because his mom and new dad look like a very bad example to him...i hope you do whatever is the right thing for you!
And i wish you all the very best!

Good luck hun!
Blessings,

God Bless You!

Jane.

Answer 3

~He should be able to talk to his father in private as much as he wants. I think he is repeating what he heard and wants attention. What is happening at home is anyones guess. You're going to take a 7 year olds word for it?
How many men she see's really doesn't concern either one of you. You should encourage him to at least take a bite of everything on his plate, but never to eat all of it. His tastes will change eventually and small bites are encouraging this. You can't "change" his eating habits when you have him once every two weeks. All your husband has is visitation. His DAD needs to talk to his mother.
It sounds like he really likes his new step dad. He shouldn't have to feel like he has to defend him. That makes him feel like a bad person for liking someone YOU think is "bad." He loves his mother, don't say anything negative about her EVER! He's just a child and shouldn't be put in the middle.
Maybe he is getting this cutting thing from his aunt, again, the child's FATHER needs to talk to his ex about it.
I hope you stop trying to control everything and making accusations you don't have any proof of.~

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Cutting is a serious problem, you guys need to get him away from their if he is telling you that he wants to cut himself, he is trying to get you to do something i would get full custody of him and i hope he gets better if their are in and out of jail all the time they should not get him, and abouth this hole thing that the dad should go back to the thats a bunch of **** i know a lot of people that are happy that their mom and dad's arn't togather any more i hope you guys luck love ya

Answer 6

I would meet with his mom and discuss your concerns. I would also look into a child therapist. Even if he is just saying the cutting thing because he overheard someone else say it it is a warning sign that cannot be ignored. Keep the lines of communication open with both the little boy and his mom. Good luck!

Answer 7

You guys need to get a lower and take his mother to court from what I am hearing you guys can get him and you need to as well he sounds very confused to me I wouldn't be surprised if they was telling him things to make him look up to this man please do get custody of him he doesn't need to be with his mother or step dad and just make sure you let him know you love him OK about the food thing you could strike a deal with him tell him if he eats so much of his food he can have a small bag of chips ext

Answer 8

First of all I am completely outraged that you would force a boy or any child for that matter to EAT ALL the food he has on the plate, do YOU know how big his stomach is, CAN YOU feel when he is full? Not only is his mother emotionally and psychologically abusing him with her immature behavior, he gets a double dose from you guys. I would be saying the stuff too, so you need to rethink your own shortcomings before you have any right to say anything about his Mother!

Answer 9

Record everything that is said and talk to the cps and get them investigating the mom and stepdad. His school teachers and counselers may be of some help there.
A private investigator may uncover some things.
These should help in getting custody or getting the help he may need.

Answer 10

my 5 year old did the same thing every time he came home from his dads house he would punch himself in the face say he wanted to kill or hurt himself and hit his brothers and sister all the time not to mention the foil mouth also we had to get a court order to keep his dad away from him we didn't have to take him to therapy cause it all stopped when his dad was gone but you should stop this soon or it might get really bad quick and i don't think you want that