...when he doesnt get what he wants. we are used to getting him to stop crying by giving him what he wants, but we found that it will only make him spoiled. the other day went to blockbuster to rent a movie and he omar (my 3 year old brother) ran straight to the ice cream and we had JUST came from baskin robins before we went to block buster! he threw this fit and was screaming at the TOPPP OF HIS LUNGS! it was so humiliating. and when we tried to pick him up so we could leave, he would just lay down and kick and scream, he would would allow us to even pick him up! so my other brother and i had to hold him down and BOTH of us had to struggle to carry him back to the car where he cried and screamed for 10 minutes! he just turned 3 a few days ago, and hes never usually like this! this incident wasnt the first tim either! any suggestions?!?!? PLEASE! and thanks in advance!
2006-12-10 12:48:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have boys , if you let them get away with it then they will . You should not have to leave the store . You are going to have to become tougher with him if you dont want this child to run all over you as parent because then he takes control . That is what is humilating when others see you dont have control on your own child(ren). You dont have to spank if you that not who you are but you are going to have to find something that works for you . I left my son right there in Wal mart in middle of the floor acting a fool and I guess he realized I was not paying attention to him and he stopped but when we got outside I spanked him and explained everything is not about you . I wish you the best of luck ..
2006-12-10 12:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Nava 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
e-gads how i feel for you, i have a three year old grandaughter that will at times do this to her mother. Although she does not do this with us, tired it once and has not done it since. I simply carried her out of the store and put her in the car and drove home . After i went to the store a few times without her, and i would brag it up, I am going to wal mart and I am going to McDonalds and you cant go because you act naughty, and i leave , with her crying that she wants to go. After a few days i told her she could go if she was good, on the way into the store i let her look at the machines that sell quarter junk and let her pick something out, and if she is good in the store she can have something when she we leave. It worked.
Also, you can take away the cartoons ....when you get home, no TV for the little one and send him to his room. Let him scream and yell and carry on it will not kill him. Eventually he will get the hint. Stick to your guns, don't give in for if you do he will continue, he will learn that there is consequence for his behavior. Kids are not stupid, they are manipulative and will walk all over you if allowed.
2006-12-10 12:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by vivib 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i comprehend what you're dealing with. p.c.. a niche at your residence the place she will't get harm yet is thoroughly boring and out of your way. tell her that her tantrums are very particular and so she desires a particular place to have them. every time she pitches a in good shape, take her to that spot and tell her to have all the tantrum she needs and then leave the room. She would be unable to be everywhere else contained in the abode if she isn't behaving nicely. And do ascertain to grant her lots of beneficial interest whilst she is agreeable to be around. additionally, if she whines or cries, tell her which you won't be able to consult along with her whilst she speaks like that. turn your back in case you would be able to desire to. whilst she knows that tantrums and whining gets her no longer something, she will start to wind them down. even though it is going to take a collectively as so do no longer lose coronary heart.
2016-10-05 03:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by alia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a two and a half yr old she also does the same thing. Public outings are sometimes humiliating. I get all stressed and and feel like i don't want to take her out anywhere. When she throws her tantrums while out Ive just had to learn to ignore her. I used to just give her something to make her be quiet but that didn't work either. You just have to ignore them it will eventually fade, maybe try giving them a toy or something they like from home to play with. Experiment that is all you can do, maybe try to make going out into a game, something fun for them so they will enjoy going out instead of throwing tantrums. Hope that helps :)
2006-12-10 12:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first mistake is giving in to him, as you probably already know. When you were at Blockbuster, maybe you could've have gone to the family section and talk about some of the movies that he would be interested in, then that would've taken his mind off of the ice cream. Alot of kids his age go thrue the whining stage. It'll pass. Good Luck!
2006-12-10 13:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by Unshaken Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's testing you and your family.
Let him know that it's not acceptable behaviour. The next time he throws a tantrum, it means a trip home and facing the naughty corner/spot.
You also have to stop giving him everything he wants. If he crys, let him. Every time you give into him, you teach him that if he crys long enough and hard enough, he will get what he wants.
He's hard enough to control at 3... keep giving in and you'll have a monster when he turns 5 and then you'll have to deal with him in his teens... :[
2006-12-11 00:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by midnight_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried telling him he'll looks like a dork when he cracks up? Don't give in to him, let him have his tantrum,( you should not be embarrassed, little kids do it all the time) when he's through say 'that was a silly thing to do, now you get nothing" . Soon he will figure that he gets less when he has the tantrum.
2006-12-10 12:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i grew up with out that type of affection and i wanted it bad. try the opposites method. treat him like the invisible boy until he acts respectfully. this should humble him
2006-12-10 13:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by steven d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's been well trained to respond in this way.
The only way to stop it is to quit giving in to him.
2006-12-10 15:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋