I'm really confused right now... okay, my friend and I had a HUGE fight a couple weeks ago, and seriously didn't say a word to each other for a few weeks. I've been friends with him for like three years, and people pretty much always grouped us "together" even though we were always in denial of it... but in all honesty i do like him a lot. We finally got over this fight just recently, and for a few days he was great, and we were talking like normal. Then he started going on to me about how he needed a girlfriend, which everyone seems to think means he likes me... we had a really deep conversation though in any case. But for the past three days, he hasn't said a word to me... he literally looks at me, and I'll smile at him, and he just looks at me and looks the other way... I like this guy a LOT, but I'm really tired of playing games with him and sitting there trying to figure out what he's trying to do... I'm getting ready to give up on him... any advice?? Thanks so much
2006-12-10 12:35:31 · 16 answers · asked by xxEquestrianxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about that conversaton - what did you say? That might hold the key to why he is giving you the cold shoulder.
When he said he needed a g/f I think he was sending you a clear signal. Sounds to me like he thinks you didn't pick up on it or in some way you made him feel a bit foolish. Just a thought, could be wrong.
2006-12-10 12:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been friends for three years and are capable of having deep conversations with each other, just come right out and tell him you really like him a lot and ask him if he sees the two of you in a relationship beyond being friends. It doesn't sound like it will make things any more stressed...I think it's already there. Maybe it might make things better. I hope it works for you. I married my best friend and he's still my best friend and lots more too. Best of luck.
2006-12-10 12:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by tmw36 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two are communicating like this after three years, your relationship will not work. Honest communication is the key to a successful relationship and you two just don't have it. You both need to reassess your lives and learn to be honest, first yourself, then with each other. You need to ask yourself, Why would I want to have a relationship with someone and we cannot be honest with each other? Learn to speak the truth, with a kind spirit, and be willing to accept an honest answer from the other person. You may or may not like what you hear, but getting the truth will help you both move forward in the right direction.
2006-12-10 12:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by it_was_julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to him. If he won't talk give him some time to think and figure out how he feels and what he wants to do. Then after a couple days try talking to him again. If he still won't talk tell him that u cherish your friendship with him and your willing to do anything to get it back. Gurl I went through almost the same thing and if he's anything like my guy the outcome will be GREAT.
2006-12-10 12:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating other guys, either he will wake up and fight for you or you'll find someone else who is an even better match. It is a win-win situation for you.
It worked for me... I am now with my long time best friend and am very happy. Good luck and really don't get stressed out, just have fun with other guys in the mean time and see what happens.
2006-12-10 12:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would come right out and ask him if he likes you, and if he says no he wants to be friends then yes give up on having a relationship with him and try to salvage the friendship you have left
2006-12-10 12:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, tell him how you feel about him and if he really is a good friend he'd understand, even if he doesn't like you on the same level...Trust me on this just tell him how you feel nothing to loose but a whole lot to gain.
2006-12-10 12:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him...he's obviously tiptoeing around the issue. But don't emasculate him...try to be subtle about it. Something along the lines of "there probably aren't any girls out there who care about you as much as I do and know you as well as I do...so if you're asking me to help you find another woman I guess I'd be qualified"
2006-12-10 12:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by BarbwireNRoses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up on him,let him go ,let him play games by his self or with somebody else.If he really like you like that, then he will come back and be ready for you,if he dont then you know you did the right thing.
2006-12-10 12:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by ellie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. The way out of everything is honesty. This might be embarrasing or something but, go up to him and tell him "listen, we need to talk." Then ask him "What do you think of like you and me...together?" if he wont talk to you just give it time. time heels everything.
2006-12-10 12:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by The butter duchess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋