my friend threatened to commit suicide i told the social worker and she talked to her, her parents and teacher

Question

now shes really mad and is threatning to spread rumors about me if i tell her speech teacher but the social worker already did. im her only friend and i dont want her to hurt herself but shes making me mad. she always says im her best friend, her only friend, and were really not that close. andshe always gets mad at me for no reason. what should i do? did i do the right thing in teling someone?

Answer 1

You did the right thing, you may have saved her life. Studies show that most people talk about suicide many times before actually acting on it. You have nothing to feel bad about. I am not sure if she would make a good friend right now anyway. She sound like she has some issues that she need to work on.

Answer 2

Face her and call her bluff,

I had a friend once that would do that to me and when I got tired of it, I faced her and told her that she couldn't make me feel bad or hurt my feelings any more, Because I wasn't gonna let her. And she looked at me and got mad But she really couldn't say too much to me. I let her stand there like a dummy for a few minutes then she came and apologized for the way she had been treating me. We still didn't weren't that close after a few years, But she is still alive and she is married and happy now, and That is all I wanted for her.

Just show her some tough Love, You know when she tells you that she is gonna kill herself ask her "how?" And when she says "how what?" ask her "How are you gonna do it?" This will throw her off and give you time to talk to her about how you feel when she uses you as a crutch.

A true friend will not allow you to be harm. She won't harm herself to keep you from being harmed emotionally.

Answer 3

Suicidal thoughts is almost always a sign of mental illness, so don`t take how she behaves the wrong way. It may be a symptom of a mental disorder. You probablly saved her life by telling someone, so yes, you definately did the right thing. Just be patient with her. If she gets mad at you, let her and try not to get mad back at her. If you do get mad, don`t show it. Just try to be there for her whenever possible.

You seem like a really great, caring person. I hope everything works out okay.

Answer 4

You did the exact right thing by telling the social worker. Your friend should be pleased with your concern. You may have possibly saved her life. If I were you, I would invite this friend over to have a talk. Don't get angry (or have an angry tone to your voice), but tell her how much you care about her. Tell her how worried you are and it's just that you want her to be ok. Please don't feel bad for what you did. You did the right thing.

Answer 5

You are being manipulated in a way, but even if you don't have feelings for this friend, support him in everything. All he needs right now is extra love. It's not at all your fault that you don't like him, you can't choose who you like!! So for now, just encourage your friend and tell how much you do care. If this gets more serious, tell an adult for the sake of your friend's life. I am sorry this is happening, it is very sad & unfortunate. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

"What if It’s Someone You Know?

It is always a good thing to start a conversation with someone you think may be considering suicide. It allows you to get help for the person, and just talking about it may help the person to feel less alone and more cared about and understood.

Talking things through may also give the person an opportunity to consider other solutions to problems. Most of the time, people who are considering suicide are willing to talk if someone asks them out of concern and care. Because people who are depressed are not as able to see answers as well as others, it can help to have someone work with them in coming up with at least one other way out of a bad situation.

Even if a friend or classmate swears you to secrecy, you must get help as soon as possible — your friend's life could depend on it. Someone who is seriously thinking about suicide may have sunk so deeply into an emotional hole that the person could be unable to recognize that he or she needs help. Tell an adult you trust as soon as possible.

If necessary, you can also call the toll-free number for a suicide crisis line or a local emergency number (911). You can find local suicide crisis or hotline numbers listed in your phone book or check out the ones listed in the resources tab. These are confidential resources and the people at any of these places are happy to talk to you to help you figure out what is best to do.

Sometimes, teens who make a suicide attempt — or who die as a result of suicide — seem to give no clue beforehand. This can leave loved ones feeling not only grief stricken but guilty and wondering if they missed something. It is important for family members and friends of those who die by suicide to know that sometimes there is no warning and they should not blame themselves.

When someone dies by suicide the people who knew them can be left with a terrible emotional pain. Teens who have had a recent loss or crisis or who had a family member or classmate who committed suicide may be especially vulnerable to suicidal thinking and behavior themselves. If you’ve been close to someone who has attempted or committed suicide, it can help to talk with a therapist or counselor — someone who is trained in dealing with this complex issue. Or, you could join a group for survivors where you can share your feelings and get the support of people who have been in the same situation as you."
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/suicide.html

Answer 7

yes you did the right thing. I had a hard time in my life recently, and the only person I told about it was my best friend who started pressuring me to see a counsellor. Well, while it s true that i was very very mad at her for not leaving me alone ( because that is how you feel when it s really hard) I still knew that she was doing it for me out of friendship. Now that the hard times are behind me i love her even more, and our friendship is as strong as ever. Please, the important thing for u is to not to let your friend reject you. despite the hard words, and the accusations, be there for her, because she needs it.

Answer 8

You absolutely positively did the right thing. You should always notify a professional if you think someone is suicidal. Anger isn't an uncommon reponse to this. Think of it this way--she might not be alive right now if you hadn't told anyone. Someday, she may thank you for this.

Answer 9

Yes of course you did the right thing. You have a duty as a caring human being to tell someone if someone else is going to hurt themself or someone else.If you didn't and they actually went through with their threats you would have to live with that for the rest of your life. As far as everything else she apparently is going through something because she wouldn't just threaten to kill herself otherwise. There is probably alot going on and she is venting on you. I wouldn't take it personally but when people are hurting inside sometimes they take it out on others. Sorry about that and i hope everything works out.

Answer 10

God bless you for talking to the social worker for her benefit. Say no more and let this work itself out except continue to be her friend if she will let you.. Don't turn against her nor discuss this or your anger with others. Pray for her and we will pray for her and for you. To reassure yourself that you have done the correct thing, you may want to also consult the social worker or school counselor/minister.

God bless you both.