i am a single mom of 3 todlers.triplets.and i have a full time job.very stressful and demanding.when i come home,well i go pick them up from day care.then come home cook,clean after thembathe them,put them to sleep.then by the time theyre sleep,i have to go to sleep.i wake up at 400 am everyday,to be at work at 600am.but,i feel,im going crazy.i feel,i need a break.and,i love my kids,but wish,i had a little help.have no family here.but their grandparents,aunts,they live near by.but,i cant count on them for anything.they wouldnt even watch them,for me to go to the hospital,when i was sick,a couple months ago.im seperated from their son,and they think i was malicious,when i put him in prison for hiting me.but,i am so exhausted.i would like,to have,some time for my self,at least one hour a day,with no crying,or fighting.am i wrong?
2006-12-10 12:08:17 · 15 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No, you're totally justified in feeling tired. Do you have a friend that can watch your children for a few hours during the week? Don't be afraid to rely on friends...they are more than happy to help, you'd be suprised. Sometimes being a strong independent woman mean knowing when to ask for help every now and again.
2006-12-10 12:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by tangyterp83 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely normal! Are they in a daycare center? If you get off a couple of hours before the daycare closes don't go straight there to pick them up. Use that time for yourself. That's what I did when my kids were younger, even if it was just to go grocery shopping kid free, it was still a little break.
And never feel that you are wrong for the way you are feeling. It is very overwhelming to be a single mother, especially to 3 toddlers. Try to do something nice for yourself every day, even if it's just reading for 30 minutes or taking a bubble bath.
Keep your head up. And as far as the abusive father, you did the right thing.
2006-12-10 12:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by molasses417 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are not wrong. It is nice to have a break from them even if it is more than an hour a day. I understand what you are going through because I have a friend who has 5 kids all under the age of 16 and she has always had them. A set of them are twins and the youngest one is now like 8 but sometimes she just wants to tear her hair out. You know what there has got to be some kind of program that is out there that social services provides for mothers in your case. And like my friend she also put her husband into prison for child molestation on her children. She has no support and no family that is willing to help her. But how you feel is completely normal. I will pray for you, and pray that everything goes good for you.
2006-12-10 12:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blah Blah Blah,.. Toddler Triplets is all you have to say,..
YES! You should be warn out and sick of things,.. you need a vacation or better & regular support then anyone will ever give you. And to be honest when the monsters grow up they will love to play mind games with everyone and always have each other as support,.. unless one of them has a Concious. If one of them has a Concious,.. they will be one of your best friends and you will only see the others on Holidays.
You DO NEED A BREAK. Don't let anyone tell you other wise.
If you really can't handle things see if you can get anyone on your phone by dialing only 211,.. they'll be happy to hook you up with someone that would love to hear your story and try to problem solve for you. They can hook you up with some special services and assistence. Hopefully some where along the way you'll run into one of the special things that are going around where you and a friend can spend a weekend some where.
2006-12-10 12:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by sailortinkitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No your not wrong. everyone needs some time to themselfs. You have 3 children the same age you have got to be exausted !! can you trade off with another mom ? say she keeps the kids an hr or 2 one day and a few days later you give her a break . That way you both get your break and neither one of you has to pay anyone.
2006-12-10 12:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mindy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are having the thoughts every mother has. Dont feel bad. It does not mean you dont love your kids, you just need a mental break sometimes. Try taking some "you" time when the kids are asleep. Even if for a little bit.
I will pray for you. I totally understand.
2006-12-10 12:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 03:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by alia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. I am sorry you are having such a hard time of it. You are running yourself ragged. Is there anyway you can get a babysitter for a few hours a week, or get a friend to help? We all need to take a break ocassionally.
Good luck.
2006-12-10 12:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being an adult male with no children, over 40, I have dated many women with children. Almost all of them said they regretted having children. Many more probably do, but because such thoughts are a social taboo, they don't admit to it.
I think you are going through a normal experience.
2006-12-10 17:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with wanting some time to yourself.So find someone you trust to watch them if only for a few hours and go enjoy your time apart.
2006-12-10 12:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by Miss.Strawberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋