im in love with a guy whom i dated last year. now were friends but i still have feelings for him and i know there is NO way hes ever going to like me again. i really REALLY want to get over him but i just CANT!!! PLEASE help me!! and we go to school together so dont say some crap like "find someone new" or "try to forget about him" cuz trust me...it DOESNT work. and im so not going to see a therapist or anything. i just need some down-to-earth simple advice and thank you so much!!
2006-12-10 12:01:51 · 13 answers · asked by teddy_gal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him that ur life without him is nothing and u love him and dream to get back to him
2006-12-10 12:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
the down- to-earth truth is" time heals all " i know it seems like the end of the world now but hang in there it gets much better. you might start by not going to the same places where you know he'll be. the same hang out places and such you can't change schools or classes if you have them together but you can sit on the otherside of room and make new friends or catch up with some of the old friends that you might have lost contact with when you and he started dating. good luck
2006-12-10 20:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by hummybird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are going through the same thing i just went through, so here's some down to earth simple advice....dont find someone new or try to forget about him, not just yet. take it slow and think of him as just a friend. i tried to cut the guy i like off right away, and it didnt work, it made me like him more. take baby steps and eventually you will find your way. dont lose hope, follow your heart is the best down to earth simple advice i can give you.
2006-12-10 20:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by livinlifeintheoc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just need to give it time. You say you are friends, as long as he is in your life you will have a hard time getting over him. try to keep busy outside of school so your mind isn't on him. don't spend time with him other then seeing him school. It may sound hard, but its the best way to move on.
it took me a long time to get over my x and until we cut off communication and i moved on and realized i didnt truely love him i couldnt get over him.
now its years later, i am happy to hear he is in a relationship, i am happy in a relationship and when i see him we talk, there are no hard feelings but no romantic feelings either.
you just need to give it time, and remember you are still young, you will find someone else.
2006-12-10 20:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by strtat2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if you see him all the time,ignore him.Understand that if he wanted to get back with you ,he would make the move.Guys may be dumb in some cases,but when they truly want a girl they go after it bigtime.I know it hurts,but distract yourself by staying busy with other things.Sounds like he has moved on,and you should try to also.Love does'nt always come to us when we want it,but be real with yourself and realise that it will only be hurtful to your self to continue holding on to him.You may pray for God to help you to let him go.Pray everyday about it,even if you don't believe in God,it will help.Good luck.
2006-12-10 20:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will not like my reply, but its the truth: the only way to forget him is to stop seeing him and stop spending time with him. unfortunately, the more you are around him and the more you pretend to be "friends", that will make it impossible for you to forget. You have to change school, and then just allow TIME to heal you
good luck
2006-12-10 20:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by oneblueanjel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is no secret way to forget someone. once someone leaves foot prints in your heart, they stay there. i know you need a direct answer, and something quick right now because he's always on your mind, but you can never have him. but we'll never know what will happen in the future. just wait and let life do it's thing.
2006-12-10 20:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just burn him a cd of songs that will express your unrequited love like "We Can't Be Friends" by Deborah Cox. Maybe he can read the lines between the lines? Just a thought....but be careful to not cross into stalker territory. I know you've probably heard it a million times, but it's worth mentioning again-NO MEANS NO.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-10 20:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by godzanointedgirl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
HIT ME UP ON MYSPACE. Myspace.com/thugnballa911 i will go in depth w/ you there. I am also tryin to get over someone. For some reason it is harder said then done.
OH GOOD IDEA comment below me... now everyone can think she's a whore. Nice, I am sure that's what she wants...
2006-12-10 20:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Untouchable 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't get over him because you don't want to. Why? Start telling yourself "YOU CAN GET OVER HIM, AND YOU WILL" As long as you want to feel sad you will remain sad. STOP, thinking about him, every time he pops in your head, have something else to think about, even if you have to do it 1000 times in a row. You are in control of your own mind aren't you? Get over yourself and off you pitty pot, you aren't the first girl who has been dumped, left, cheated on. Pull yourself together, get on with your life when you are ready.
2006-12-10 20:16:07 · answer #10 · answered by Do unto others 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oo how i wish i could help you....i really do....i was in your same position....and the truth is...the best way to get over him is by hooking up or hanging out with some one else to get your mind off of him......and if you really dont want to do that read some girl empowerment books (he's just not that into you and etc) and watch a movie like two can play that game and slap yourself into reality.....b.c its not magic and you cant just POOF BE OVER HIM
2006-12-10 20:06:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋