I told my parents i wanted to move out because we didnt get along my friend & her mom were gonna take me in they have told me that i could leave at 17 well now there telling me i cant so every since i told them i was gonna move out theyhave been really mean to me they wont give me lunch money, or take me to the dentist, they told me if i wanted to go to the dentist that i had to find a ride up there & back & pay for it my self so i dont know what to do i just wanna get out, my other brothers and sister have chores to do and i do too but i mostly am told to do stuff all the time. They also give my brother everything he wants.
2006-12-10 11:59:23 · 5 answers · asked by Claire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What your parents are trying to show you is that they have been doing a lot of things for you, for your whole life and when you tell them you want a divorce from them, it hurts their feelings. Frankly, the only thing they can do if you want to be emancipated is give you a taste of what living on your own will be like.
My guess is your brother is more cooperative with them (something I imagine you think seems like butt kissing) but honestly - it is simply the way live works. Raising children is hard, expensive and demanding. Teenagers can be particularly hard to get along with and ungrateful - not because they are no nice people, but because they think differently than parents.
My husband always tell this story - he says runners take their kids out for runs in the jogging stroller, sometimes hope their child will want to run with them as they get older. What they don't realize is that the kid is just moving fast in a vehicle and is much more likely to want to race cars than run. This is a common theme in parenting. We have learned to work hard and to earn money so that we can provide our kids with everything they want and need. Do they appreciate this? Seldom - because all they see is that anything and everything that they want or need simply materializes when they ask for it. Your parents are trying to illustrate that to you.
If you want to be mature in this situation and fix things, I recommend that you go to them and apologize for the divorce comments and ask them if there is some way that you can all work together and compromise so that everyone is happy and gets what they want. If they want you to do chores as part of your family responsibilities - do them without being told. This way they see that you are a team player and you do what you say you will. Once you get to that level then you can ask for what you want.
Life and relationships are give and take - and only more so as you get older and have a boss, spouse, children, parent, in-laws, siblings, friends, etc. to manage.
Peace!
2006-12-10 12:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you become emancipated you will be responsible for paying for your own lunch and taking yourself to the dentist as well as pay for it yourself. They are simply showing you exactaly what you will be up against when you move out. Your parents will no longer be responsible for your financial support. And I'm sure that your friend's mother will be looking for some form of payment for you to live with them because you living there will mean extra groceries, extra heat and electricticy, you will generate more garbage which is part of the city bill and will be extra money as well as the water you use and the energy to heat the water you use to bathe in. You will be responsible for all of your own doctor and dentist bills because I doubt your friend's mother would want to pay them for you. You will also be responsible for purchasing and paying for your own car, however you'd better have cash because it is against the law for any lender (bank, loan company) to make a contract with a minor and even though you've been emanicpated your age is still under 18. You will also be financially responsible for the care of the auto as well as insurance. Your parents are only giving you a tiny taste of what it's like on your own. You'd better think long and hard about it.
2006-12-10 12:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A freedom or a right is a state granted permission to do something within a certain capacity that they later set with court cases. It is a joke. All of politics is a joke. Telling someone they are allowed to be free is not real freedom and is even worse being a total perversion of what a right or freedom really is.
2016-05-23 03:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they would give you more if you would appreciate them. If my son told me he was going to move out, I certainly wouldn't be doing special things for him like giving him lunch money and driving him places. People are mean to you because you are mean to them. Try being nice and see what happens. Try making supper for your family and saying sorry. You will be blessed by blessing others with your gifts and your love. Your family loves you, they are just not sure that you love them. Show them. Actions speak louder than words. And don't ever stop showing them.
2006-12-10 12:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone else wants to raise you and everyone will sign off on it; you could ask someone to become your legal guardian.
2006-12-12 02:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by chio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋