ok my friend wants me to break up with my boyfriend!
i've sent him e-mails and IM's and he wasen't replying!
then his lil bro told me hes grounded so that's why he hasen't been replying. My friend thinks i should break up with him...but for what?! he hasen't done anything...hes told me he loves me and hes the sweetest person EVER! I don't want to break up! and now everytime i bring him up shes like "you mean you haven't broke up with him yet?...you need to ASAP!" ...i should't break up with him right???????? HELP!
2006-12-10 11:59:15 · 12 answers · asked by nikki<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have patience and have more self confidence, its very important to listen to other people's advice but do what ever you are 100% sure of i.e. what your mind tells you is the right action.
i personally prefer waiting until things are clearer, and giving my actions some thought and time rather than taking spontaneous actions and regretting them later
2006-12-10 12:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ramzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your friend is simply jealous of the relationship you have with this boy. Chances are, now that you're romantically involved, you aren't spending quite as much time with your friend. This is only natural since you have more people to dedicate your time towards, but honestly ask yourself, whose getting the raw end of the deal? Are you neglecting your friend for the sake of your boyfriend? If you think this might be the case, then try to schedule more time with your friend, and try to talk about things together other than your boyfriend. This will preserve the mentality that, yes, you still have time to solely dedicate to your friendship.
However, if you think you're spending enough time with her, than try talking to your friend about it. Ask her what about the relationship you have bothers her, and how can you fix it. If the answer is feasible, make an effort to accommodate her wishes. If the answer is outrageous, then I would sit her down and talk about why you think she's being unreasonable.
However, I would talk to her seriously about it no matter what the outcome. Maybe she's seeing things about the relationship that you're not seeing. Try and validate her feelings, and understand where she's coming from. Your her friend, and she cares about you.
I hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-12-10 20:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by Huit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,, did you ever ask your friend why she is so emminent for you to break up with him? There has to be a reason why she is begging you to..Have her explain her reason to you...Hun,if he hasnt done nothing wrong to you or against you then give him the benefit of the doubt...Dont break up just cuz your friend says so...Wait and find out from him what is goin on then make up your mind what you will do..But first,,I would confront your friend and find out why she wants you to break up with him so badly for...May God guide you thru this..
2006-12-10 20:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by glowworm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my best friend is dating someone i ABSOLUTLEY HATE WITH A PASSION and i want her to break up with him but i would never tell her that to her FACE! lol BUTTTTT what you need to ask her is WHY and if its a really stupid reason like "He broke up with my best friend last year, now we're trying to avoid him" then you have NO right to! but if its a really good reason like "He harrased my friend last year and i just don't want you to get hurt" OR "We went out last year and i still have really big feelings for him" then i would most DEFINETLY break up with him!! or even you THINK she likes him a LOT and you think its been going on for a while then i would break up with him for that too.....and ect.
But you should really CALL HIM and tell him whats going on and tell him how your "friend" is feeling, see how he reacts. And tell him that you might HAVE to break up with him because of your friend and you have no other choice. exagerate. just a lil. lol but If HE OVER reacts then hes no good for you. If he says something like "Yeah i totally understand...don't worry about it" then i bet you anything he really has feelings for you and would do anything to make you happy!
But most of all talk to your friend, see how SHES feeling! A good friend ship doesn't just have ONE person in it, it has 2!
Hope i Helped--
Hazelidbeauty
2006-12-10 20:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend to get lost. I see some evil here. Your friend is either jealous of your attention being directed AWAY from her or, your friend wants your boyfriend. Either way it's a bad scene. So here is my advice; invite your friend over to your boyfriends house for a threesome and see how they react. This will provide you VOLUMES of information so you can make an intelligent decision.
2006-12-10 20:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What it sounds to me is she wants you to break up with him so she can jump on him as soon as he is single and free game. Follow your heart sound to me like hes a good guy. Trust me I'm one of those type and they are very hard to find.
2006-12-10 20:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Nickolei 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
like if you like him then dont break- up with him! she may be your best friend but it dont matter what other people think as long as you are happy! she really aint being your friend by the ways she acting. if she was she wouldnt care.....
2006-12-10 20:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by sam! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no dont break up with him just because your friend wants you too. you think he's special so keep him close to your heart and dont let your friend come between you two.
2006-12-10 20:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by livinlifeintheoc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your friend that your the one dating him not her and if you ere going to you would have done it by now. so no you shouldn't break up with him cause of your friend
2006-12-10 20:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by tiff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldnt especially since you like him so much...dont let your friends tell you how to run your life-your living it and its your story-dont let others make it up for you
2006-12-10 20:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋