So there is this guy I talked to all summer while he was on tour, it was amazing. We ended up really liking eachother, he even told me that I was "changing him" and that I was a good thing for him. The only problem with all of this is when he got home we had a lot of trouble hanging out because of our schedules. And we've driffed apart since then. He sees other girls now.
I still see him out often, Ive been adopted into his circle of friends, all of which that know about he and I tell me that I need to talk to him "grab the bull by his horns" per-say... I know he is horrified of relationships and he told me this summer that I scared him.
Im not really sure what to do at this point in time, because Im scared too. Ive completly fallen for the kid and I dont want to run the risk of us not being friends after I tell him how I feel. His friends all think he feels the same way and that hes just scared...
but I dont know....
any thoughts?
2006-12-10 11:53:59 · 5 answers · asked by SC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im not sayin go for it since he's scared of relationships, but u need to make some kind of move just to hint your feelings but not showing that you want something serious. if his friends know u like him, they probably told him so he should know how u feel, so be there if he comes at you but dont make a huge move that will make u seem desperate. if u say that yall are drifting apart just try to keep in touch more throught the phone or sumtin.
good luck.
2006-12-10 11:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, i know it hurts to hear this but guys arent stupid. you have been adopted into his circle of friends? umm... no you wern't, you wriggled your way in by charming all of his friends so that he would like you more. true? either that or you did it so you could hang out with him without having to wait for him to ask you. you know im right. i am also female and if your born a chick you hafta get in the game. its all about playing games and screwing with peoples heads to get what you want. we dont care who gets hurt.
girl, what is wrong with you? this is the part where you screwed up... dont tell him how you feel, are you crazy? there will be absolutely no grabbing of bulls horns.
why?
because you are better than that, and even if you dont think you are he obviously thinks your a bit of alright. so play it cool from now on, dont chase him. he will start to chase you and if he dosnt then at least you still have your answer. i know us girls get caught up in our web of games but sometimes youve gotta sit back and teach somone else the rules
good luck babe
2006-12-10 20:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by *juicyjellybean* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has had second thoughts on the 'changes' that you have had him undergo, and now feels that he doesnt need to change. Maybe he is scared that you would take control over his life to an extent that he would lose his independence. You can put across ideas to him that you want to be just friends and that you arent trying to influence his thinking. This may help.
2006-12-10 20:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is not ready to commit, if that is okay with you give him some space, if not move on..You and you only know what you feel, but no woman wants to be one of many....right?
2006-12-10 19:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him tell him how u feel let it out dont be stressed out please
2006-12-10 19:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by jon_lettuce_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋