i have a bf of 1 yr. he used to beat me up whenever he gets jealous or mad at me. he cant control his temper. the last time he beat me he almost killed me by choking with his belt.. i wanted to leave him but i still love him.. what shall i do?
2006-12-10 11:46:01 · 15 answers · asked by piNayGoDeSS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you want to be dead and in a gutter someday???
I suffered for years with (4) different abusive men...
they say it us.. we pick them ..or do they pick us..maybe we throw off vibes ..that we like control and not being srtrong enough ..plz Hear Me!!! ..u will end up looking like its your fault then u will get very low self esteem and he will break u so hard he could even kill u someday... plz get away!!!...from this man..When your choosing the next guy make sure hes not telling u what to wear..what to do... to work or not work...and shouldnt be calling u any names at all (nor u him)..if u dont get out now ...u may die plz Hear Me..I know from over 20 yrs of abuse...
and its true people (others) will start to shun u..and turn a deaf ear cuz u keep ending up helpless ...plz attend church for strength and get your mom or really close girlfriend or aunt or someone to talk to u..he is certain to get violent.. so u may even have to go to womens shelter...I'll be praying for u...and yes the womens shelter will help u get restraining order...
2006-12-10 11:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get away from him and stay away from him. There is no good reason for beating another person. Any man that takes his anger out on a woman is not a real man. There are many good guys out there who would never ever even think of hitting or beating a woman and you will find one. If you stay with this one the chances are you're going to end up seriously injured or dead. Get away and stay away. Tell someone else what is happening here. Tell your parents. Tell your teacher. Tell someone who can help you. Please.
2006-12-10 19:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mike A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact a shelter or help group for battered and abused women.This is not only about his behavior,but the real question is your self esteem.Would you want this to happen to someone you loved?Think of yourself as deserving better.This will require a support group of women who have experienced the same feelings and overcome a low sense of self-worth.Good luck.
2006-12-10 19:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you effin kidding me!!! Love is not a belt around your neck... love is not blood and bruises. Love involves making sacrafices so that your spouse is happy...all he cares about is his own happiness. Break up with his ***...get a restraining order and find a real man who will treat you the way a girl deserves to be treated!!!
2006-12-10 19:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling. He needs anger management. I have been there. If you do not do something then one of these days you won't be here to even write about what happened. If he refuses to attempt to get help then you need to leave him. If he loves you then he would show you in ways other then with his fists.
2006-12-10 19:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, no girl EVER deserves to be abused in ANYWAY ever! Leave him before you don't have a chose. Move on find another guy, he is just going to progress farther down the violent path.
2006-12-10 19:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by thunderbabe128 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he really loves you , then he wouldn't beat you up. Whenever he gets like that just try to get all cuddly with him (hopefully im not encouraging you to have sex with him, but you get the point). show him how you want to be treated.
2006-12-10 19:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He needs to go through anger management therapy by the sounds of it. But in this case, you need to put your safety first
2006-12-10 19:49:32 · answer #8 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may love him but no man is worth getting beat up over and especialy that extreamly beaten i say you should leave him and do it fast or one of you may get hurt badly
2006-12-10 19:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by cry123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him, but he doesn't love you. Love is an action, not just a word.
You cannot save him from this. Leave him be.
2006-12-10 19:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by guardian707 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋