I've been divorced 10 years but I haven't dated in 8 because the last 2 guys I dated are now doing 5 & 7 years in jail. The way I see it is I have a daughter & since I for whatever reason pick losers I cannot as a good mother take the chance of picking another one. So I don't plan on dating until she's away at College. My family thinks I'm not normal but motherhood to me is my #1 priority & I can wait. Please someone tell me that I'm not weird? I get lonely occasionally but I'm really happy with my life
2006-12-10 11:44:39 · 14 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I admire you.You are such good mother.You don't need more jerks around you.Don't worry about your family they just want you to not be lonely.
2006-12-10 11:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by ?!?! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT weird. After your past experiences, I can't say I blame you a bit!
I did a very similar thing after my divorce. I decided I was going to take a year "off" from relationships, and chose to be completely "date free" and "man free". I had two little girls at home at the time, and felt this was best for all of us.
After about two years, I met the man who is now my current husband... and while it's not by any means the "perfect" relationship (as there's really no such thing as "perfect") ;), I am very happy now because I had a chance to "collect" myself emotionally.
Your family should be glad you're not out running the streets and setting a bad example for your daughter! Families are amazing sometimes... personally, I'd tell them to mind their own business... and your social life stopped being THEIR 'business' when you came of age! ;)
Best of luck to you,
Harleygirl
2006-12-10 19:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Harleigh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's your decision not your family's. I have a very good friend that took a break from dating (10 years!) and she said it helped her figure out why she picked the losers etc and now she's married to a great guy and has never been happier. Handle things the way you think you need to for yourself and your daughter. Good luck!
2006-12-10 19:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well i guess you are doing whats best for your daughter, but if the right man comes along, i dont suggest passing him by. BUT ONLY IF U KNOW. (theres not a HUGE chance that it will happend, but there is definetly a chance). studies show that girls who grow up with out their fathers are more likely to have have sex at an earlier age, become strippers or prostitutes...etc. i am not saying that is whats going to happen to your little girl but the truth is, most girls that grow up with out fathers tend to be with alot more men bc they try to fill that "void". once again, im not trying put you down in any way, shape or form! so i think you are making a smart decision by not dating for a while, but not for long. the next time u find a guy, pay CLOSE attention to his details and ask yourself if he would be good to your daughter, and is he mature and sincere enough to be around for a while.... good luck, and i commend your courage and bravery. its not tough being a single mom, but it seems like youve got a great start :)
2006-12-10 19:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by ElBee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that you are doing what you think is right for your daughter and we need more people like you in this world. On the flipside you might just meet a good guy along the way, just be more careful to make sure he is a good guy. I don't date either and have no good reason so maybe I'm weird.
2006-12-10 19:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Dub 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, good for you...You seem to have learned a lesson, which most people never do...You are so smart putting your daughter first...Look at what is out there now..they only get one chance at childhood and it is so important to have a normal life...It is better with one stable parent than the alternative..Please keep her safety and health in mind...and maybe you will get lucky and mister wonderful come into your life.lt can happen but don't go looking..You are so special and i thank you for you child......good luck and God Bless you........
2006-12-10 19:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever works for you is normal
I would think you might miss having sex partners though, I would in that situation. hat would be my main concern about it.
I have deep respect for how much you care for your daughter.
Maybe make sure the next guy has no criminal record or tendencies. That might be a good start. Maybe test potential prospects, before or after she is in college, see if they go for ilegal ideas and things that are just plain wrong.
2006-12-10 19:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all that really matters is that your daughter and you are happy. you could try going out on dates so you won't feel lonely but don't get in any serious relationships . . . and maybe you might just find the right one.
2006-12-10 19:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by 1love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not weird. As a single, 25 year old male, I can't comprehend why dating would be 'that' important for anybody. You date people when you meet them; you don't go out with people merely to be dating.
2006-12-10 19:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jacob P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, yeah, I think it's not normal, but I'm out there doing it and having fun. (And haven't been in the situation you're in.) I don't blame you for not doing it. Kudos to you for being there for your daughter.
2006-12-10 19:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by Cheyenne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋