I am very worried about both of my brothers, one of them is missing and...?

Question

One of them is missing. I wouldn't normally worry, but he's an hour past cerfew and we learned that my uncle (who had been abusing both of them) broke out of jail 4 hours ago.

My dad got really stressed out. I understand that, of course, but my other brother asked him a question and got punched in the eye, hard. He's freaking out (my brother). He comes from an abusive background.

I'm a mess. My mother is still at work and doesn't know, my dad's upstairs in his room, and the police won't start a search for my brother until tommorow morning (mostly because it is dark out.) I don't know what to do. Should I call my mom? Should I calm my brother down? I'm freaking out!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My dad won't let me leave the house to search for my brother, either.

My dad is stresed out, not abusive. My uncle was abusive.

I am sorry he is THREE hours late

Answer 1

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I really feel for you. No one should have to endure your circumstances. The first thing you should do is to try to calm your brother down and he needs to understand that his father is having a lot of mixed feelings about things right now. The second thing to do is to call your mom and tell her what is happening there. Tell her what your father did to your brother and ask her to give you some advice. Another thing you and your brother should do is to stay away from your father for now. Try to understand his feelings. Wait until your mother gets home before you do anything and let her talk to your father and see if she can calm him down somewhat. Also if I were you I would tell your mom when she comes home that she should call the police and explain the situation and see if she can't get the police to hunt for your other brother. Maybe if the police won't help try the sheriff's department. I hope things work out for you. I am concerned for you, please let me know what happens, ok?

Answer 2

Sweetheart, I'm judging from what you just told me about what's occurred in the past hour or so that it probably has nothing to do with your uncle who got out of jail. What kind of adult punches a kid in the eye, no matter what stress they're under? Has he ever done this before? I definitely think your brother deserves an apology at the very least. He was only concerned like you. Wow.... won't go into more because well I'm not there and not my family. He's probably just hiding out at a friend's or somewhere he feels safe.

Another possibility is he just lost track of time because he was having a good time. If this is the case, you're definitely gonna want your mom around because your dad is already major stressed out.

As for him not letting you out of the house, I can understand his concern. You are his daughter and he is looking out for you. However, if you can get another adult to drive you around and help you look for your brother I don't see why he wouldn't agree to this. I hope your brother turns out to be okay. =)

*As they said, get someone else to drive your Mom home. She will end up hurting herself in a state of panic*

Answer 3

DID you thoroughly explain the situation to the cops? Call back again and ask for an investagator that was initially over the case and ask them to do something. Did you call any of his friends to see if he was over there? Yeah, I would call my mom and see what she says. Calm down and try to think think rational. Does your mom or dad have a close friend that knows about the sit. that can help you look for him? What about a grandma, uncle's girlfriend or anyone? Are you sure your uncle broke ou t of jail? Did you call the jail or someone called you or go to the department of corrections website and loook at the fugitive link to see if they have him as an escapee? Just think of anyone that could possibly help you at this moment. Please let us know the outcome. Where is your other brother? U 2 put ur heads together and come up w/ something. mayb' he heard about ur dad freaking out and him punching him and mayb' he doesn't want to come home until your mom gets there.

Answer 4

Has your brother ever come home late before? How old is he? If you are really that concerned and think something is wrong then I suggest you call your mom and tell her what's going on. Normally the police won't start looking for someone until they have been missing at least 24 hours. I hope he is ok and I wish you the best.

Answer 5

Your efforts probably are best deployed in calming the brother down who is at home. Deep breathing is a good calming strategy. Sit down; slowly exhale. Now slowly inhale, filling the abdomen up with air before filling the chest up with air. Then exhale again slowly. When you think you're done exhaling, cough once. Inhale. . . exhale. If it helps you, teach your brother this method.

Sorry this mess is happening, but you're best off trying to be realistic in what you can do in this matter at this point (as you said that the police have been called but will not start a search until tomorrow morning).

Answer 6

First of all, you need to obey your dad. It would be asking to be kidnapped if you went outside, esp this time of night. Wait a couple more hours. Call all your brothers friends and all your family in the immediate area and let them know what's going on. If "uncle" tries to come to any of their houses, then they'll know to call the cops. The second thing you need to do is, when your mom gets home, try to comfort her. Don't get in the way, but make sure they know you're there. Good luck and I hope you all find your brother soon!

Answer 7

Hi, If it was me I would call my mom she should know one of her kids are missing I would. I would also stay calm because nothing could be wrong maybe hes late who knows but usually police don't search for missing people until they have been missing for 24 hours I know its weird but that's the law here but try to calm your brother and yourself down and try (I know its hard) not to think the worse but its natural to do so but I would tell your mom she does have the right to know did you call your brothers friends to see if hes there or been there I wish you the best of luck and keep the faith that hes OK I hope I helped

Answer 8

You have to find a way to calm yourself down or you won't be any help to anyone. Your dad is obviously stressed and has told you not to leave the house - he doesn't want to have to worry about 2 missing kids. Calm down, think about what your options are right now and work with your dad to figure out what you can do together to solve this problem. good luck

Answer 9

Your father doesn't have the right to punch your brother.

Just calm down and calm your brother down.
Put on some classic music and read a book with your brother.
It is your father's responsibility to call your mother immediately.

Don't freak out because it will not help you or your brother.
Again classic music and go read Harry Potter's books that will take your mind as well as your brother's mind into another world, until this problem is resolved.

Answer 10

Calm your brother down, and if you think your mother can help in this situation, call her. If your father is abusive then you might have to call the cops to protect you and your brother.