I have recently met the greatest woman in my life. We worked together for a while and developed into very close friends. She has been married for only a short time and gets along with her husband fine and he even knows about us and is cool with it. She has openly admitted that she thinks the world of me and has even said she is closer to me than to her husband. We spend hours talking online each night and on many occasions have spent 8 hours talking about life over drinks. We come from a similar background and we get along like life-long companions. She has told me that she wishes her husband was more like me. I would never want to hurt her in anyway and have developed very strong feelings for her. Should tell her how I feel or should I take a break and walk away from the situation and risk never knowing?
2006-12-10 11:28:00 · 21 answers · asked by Williams Langston 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PLEASE carefully read the answer of unique247. This person is the only one of the answers I've so far scanned who is looking more deeply into your situation. Indeed, "...doesn't sound like she's too damn happy" is one, but much more to the answer. Others seem focused on you being a "home breaker" & that if she does it to him, she'll do it to you. Those are only assumptions. If I were you, I would definitely express how I feel, & let her make her own choice. I don't mean by giving her an alternative, just see what, if anything, she decides. It's difficult to comprehend why, if she "...gets along fine" with her husband, she spends so much time with you, & has expressed the things that she has. I've seen situations like this before, & "walking away" isn't the solution. I've also seen them resolved quite successfully. Be honest with her & see where it goes from there. Being candid cannot "hurt" her.
2006-12-10 12:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she's telling you that she wishes her husband was more like you, it doesn't sound like she's too damn happy in her marriage to me. And how is her husband 'comfortable' with her spending over 8 hours with you drinking and waxing poetic? Where is he at when this is going on? I tell you, people really confuse me sometimes.
Tell her you can't just be friends. If she doesn't want any more than that then like the other person said, she's just leading you on and wants the attention. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but better than to do this for years and keep being let down.
2006-12-10 19:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by unique2477 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lets take a good look at this.
Shes MARRIED. If she, in the course of her life, has anything more than friends with you, she'll end up as an adulterer and/or divorced.
Let her go bud. She's one of many great women on this planet. Your only closer than her husband because you have already pulled her away from him a little. Walk away and you will avoid being a homewrecker and avoid the pain that divorce causes. Believe me bud, if you love her, let her go.
2006-12-10 19:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by guardian707 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN, do not walk away from this situation. You are in the wrong letting her into your heart this way..for sakes shes still a newly wed. Just tell yourself the truth"The fantasy is ALWAYS better than the reality". What would you feel like if you ruined this marriage then ran into a woman you wanted ten times more than you want her now? Man that would be messed UP!
2006-12-10 19:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by ssunfish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is married. Leave her alone. Being this close to her will only make it difficult for her to remain faithful to her husband. There are over 6 billion people in the world. I'm sure that you'll find a nice single girl if you keep looking.
2006-12-10 19:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to figure out what you want, in this case it's okay to be a little selfish and tell her how you feel. If you think that you love her enough that you couldn't be without her then I say you have to go for it or you will always wonder. If you think it will make it too awkward dont tell her but if you can find that right moment, then take it. You can either risk telling her and be involved in this love triangle or you can walk away and find a new relationship.
2006-12-10 19:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by deppfreak6963 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
either way it will be very difficult. but don't do anything to hurt her honor, you have to be the protector. you can tell her that you love her, but try not to get her mixed up, if you really love her, you can't get her into this. it will be the hardest thing you'll ever do. be the greatest friend in the world! but if it get's to hard you'll have to take the friendship back a little. it's good to tell her how you feel, but don't let the relationship get farther then very good friends, you'll have a world of trouble!
2006-12-10 19:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Sarissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you can't be serious what kind of mess is this. If she does it to her husband what can she do for you, and her husband to say its kool thats kind of a mess, no man in his right mind is cool with his wife dealing with another man and telling him about it. Move on seems like a car wreck waiting to happen.
2006-12-10 19:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by Neek-Neek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a homewrecker... you will regret it later, she is married, and from what is sounds like very happiley, dont be the one to ruin her marriage, you may think you are clicking and you may be, but what if her feelings are strictly friendly and you aproach her with your feelings and she cuts all ties with you? Leave it alone, stay being friends and leave it at that!
2006-12-10 19:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by airforce_wife09102002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
walk away man. That is the most disgraceful f**king thing ever. You should be ashamed even thinking about that. You can wreck that man for life. FOR LIFE. Walk away. For all three of you. Please just leave it. Think of what u will be doing to them, especially her husband. I'm disgusted you would even think about doing anything like that. That makes me mad just thinking about it. You're horrible.
2006-12-10 19:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by bkettrick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋