So I recently turned 21 & I like to go out w/my girls to the club/bar..my boyfriend of 3 yrs hates the fact. He is a non-drinker & says ppl in relationships have no business going out to places like that..I dont go out often maybe every 2 weeks & its always w/a big group of girls...whats the deal? I've never cheated on him & am actually really good to him! Any suggestions on what I should do?
2006-12-10 11:24:39 · 15 answers · asked by crazyblonde 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
convince him to go out with you...
2006-12-10 11:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this guy, and can see a future together; maybe this is something to compromise on. Here are some things to consider: What do you do at the club that's so great? What would you think if it was your boyfriend going out to a club with a big group of his guy friends? What/where else can you get together/do with your girlfriends besides clubbing?
I'm not saying you are wrong for wanting time to be with your girlfriends. I think that every person in a relationship needs "me" time & "friend" time. Maybe just think about other ways of being with your friends that won't bother your boyfriend so much.
2006-12-10 19:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by tiny_tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I have this problem too..he has to realize he doesnt have control over you like that but when i go out i also find myself worrying that he is upset...it is good that he cares and he obviously doesnt want to lose you or for u to leave him..maybe he is insecure but tell him he has no reason to worry and that u have never betrayed him before...that he is the guy for you..i dont know what else u can really do ..but dont no go ...
2006-12-10 19:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue to go out with your friends, your boyfriend has some control issues and if you let him run your life he will lose all respect for you...there is nothing wrong with going out with your girls...he's just insecure that's all...and there really isnt much you could do to change a person like that he has to want to change on his own...but i would not throw away my fun for him and if he can't understand that well than maybe you shouldnt be together.
2006-12-10 19:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it's because he understands that it's not good to hang with people who hang out in bars. Maybe it's because he cares for you and doesn't want you to be hurt.
2006-12-10 19:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what your doing, he might be a little insecure. reassure him your only out with the girls. no big deal. if you really have high interest in him there is nothing for him to be worried over.
2006-12-10 19:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and continue doing what you want to.If he has a problem with it,he is being controlling and possessive.You say you are loyal,if he does not trust you,it's on him.If he does'nt drink,that's fine,but he's not your mother.
2006-12-10 19:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he have strong feelings on drinking? i think that by going out to the clubs you open yourself up to situations that may destroy your relationship. however, now and then u have to b able to let lose and destress. that's a hard one.
2006-12-10 19:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by beccaboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find yourself another man! It should not matter if u go out for a night on the town with your friends.....if he is allowed to do what he wants,SO R U!
2006-12-10 19:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by hot_mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to convince him to go with you one time. say that he can bring one or two of his friends. show him a good time. if it does not work then try not to do it but only once a month or so.
2006-12-10 19:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by <3 Emmi_rox <3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that he should understand that you like to hang out with your friends and that you aren';t doing anything wrong...
2006-12-10 20:19:23 · answer #11 · answered by clb <3 tjb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋