Wedding Etiquette?

Question

I work in a small office with a lot of people. I got engaged right after I started working there so I do not have anybody from my currnet job on the wedding guest list. However, is there some sort of etiquette that says I need to invite my boss? And if that's the case where do I draw the line, is it just my immediate supervisor, or do I also invite the head of the office?

I have been at the job for about a year...but I don't hang out with anybody there outside of work! I've changed supervisors 3 times since I've started!

Answer 1

Please listen too me on this one....went thru the same thing 1.5 ago.

Weddings are not cookouts...they are expensive and anyone married will understand that.

You are not obligated to invite anyone that is not worth $$$ per plate.

If you would like, you can invite them to the wedding and explain that you and your husband have a large family of which you have already agreed upon a set number of people and the list is closed.

If they have 1/2 a clue...they will understand.

There of course will be idiots, so don't worry about them. It's absurd what people have in mind when it comes to YOUR wedding that they probably won't even attend if invited and let's not start talking about the cheesy @*** gifts

Answer 2

It is nice etiquette to invite a boss but you mentioned that you have changed supervisor's 3 times in the past year so it's kind of hard to know which supervisor to invite, especially if the other 2 are still with the company and have simply changed jobs. If you are about to send out your invitations, then inviting the current supervisor would make the most sense. I wouldn't go out of the way to invite the "big" boss, unless that is your supervisor because then it just looks like a gift grab on your part. In the end it is your decision and if you need to keep numbers down, I would opt for not inviting any of them.

Answer 3

From the details you provided, no, I would not invite my boss. You stated that you don;t hang out with co-workers, and have had 3 supervisors already. Weddings are for meant for family and friends, people who have meaning in your life. Etiquette does not demand a boss be present at your wedding. However, I would refrain from talking too much wedding talk to anyone at work. If you do, they may think they are getting an invite, when in fact they are not.

Answer 4

There is no etiquette that says you need to invite your boss. It may seem rude to invite only your boss and no co-workers. You will be considered a suck-up by your peers and possibly your boss as well. As everyone else has said, most people understand not being invited to weddings, especially if they have paid for one in recent years.

You may have a problem if your co-workers throw you a wedding shower. You still have no obligation to invite any of them, but it will make you uncomfortable. Remember, it is your special day. These are small details in the overall scheme of things. Don't sweat the small stuff. Enjoy your special day. It cost a lot of money and it only happens once.

Answer 5

This is a huge issue with me right now! I am having such a hard time deciding! My fiance is inviting most of his coworkers but his close to most of them. Now me on the other hand have had lots of problems with my coworkers. I don't get along with them for the most part. But I have had ALL kinds of hints on coming to my wedding, when is the date, where is at.... I have also just watched two other coworkers get married. One of them invited the entire office (about 50 people + dates) and the other invited close to none of them. The office talked about the one that invited none sooooo much! I have still not decided on what I am going to do. And the one that invited the entire office had alot of people RSVP from work that never showed up! So she payed for all of those extra plates! Here are my ideas though...

1. Descretly get the addresses of those who I want invited and invite them and let them know that I am only inviting a few.

2. Invite them to the reception for drinks and have the time about and hour after dinner is over.

3. Invite none and just let them talk about me.

Good luck! My wedding is in February and I still havent decided!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I posted a question similar to this one not too long ago, and most of the answers went something like this: Don't talk too much about the wedding at work. Ask your boss for his/her home address and keep it at that. You don't have to ask any of them really since you just started, but if it makes you feel better to ask the boss, then do it. Be ready for people to shove their address or drop hints, so make sure you have the quote ready: "It's going to be a small affair with old friends and family only. Expenses just won't allow for a large wedding." Believe me, some people will just expect you to invite them. It's amazing how people loose all manners at something like this.

Answer 8

I put a invitation up on our message board but if you really only want close family and friends or do not like all your coworkers(as I do ). Just give to those coworkers you truly enjoy and would like to have at your wedding. Maybe it is the right thing to do to invite your boss but I would not if I do not like them or feel uncomfortable around them outside work.

Answer 9

Terri when it comes to weddings everyone wants an invite! Don't invite anyone from work and you just say if asked - No one from work is invited - as we couldn't invite everyone and we didn't want to offend anyone.

Besides, it's your wedding - you're paying and you can invite who you want. Don't worry - its' a modern world we live in.

Unless you want a promotion - then invite your boss and his wife!

Answer 10

You do not have to invite your boss to your wedding unless you want to network them. If you are not friends outside of work are not required to add them to your list, therefore increasing your cost of the wedding.