because his father was killed about 4 years ago. he is 10 and i want him to like christmas so when he has kids it will be jsut as much fun for him as it is for me. what can i do. i know he misses his father but i want him to enjoy christmas too.
2006-12-10 11:16:00 · 16 answers · asked by emtrain01 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Let him know his father is always with him and wants him to be happy.
Let him know he is sharing christmas with his Dad
encourage him to make a decoration or gift for his father and that wherever his Dad is he is probably enjoying the holidays and having fun with his new friends and watching over your little boy wishing he would be happy and enjoy christmas
2006-12-10 11:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that sometimes the Creator needs spirits to become a Guardian Angel, and that his Father is always with him, all the time, because he is his Guardian Angel and he can talk to him anytime he wants, he may not get an answer, but his Father will hear everything he says. This should lift his spirits some. Maybe even let him buy a gift, or make a gift for his Father that can be hung on the wall, not only for Christmas (the gift) but also for his Fathers birthday. Also name a wall for the honor of his Father where all the gifts can be placed. Not only would he feel better it will also strengthen the bond between you and him.
2006-12-10 12:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some of the pictures he has of his dad and help him make ornaments. Make a special picture of him and his father for an ornament.They don't have to be hung on a tree. Hang some in his room and around the house. where he would like to put them. He will treasure them forever. Also, let him know that it is okay to miss his father and let him talk as much as he wants about him. This is a really hard time even though it has been four years. Give him a lot of hugs and understanding. He is in our prays. Good luck. Happy holidays.
2006-12-10 12:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is close to his fathers parents, maybe they would share his Dad's experiences as a
child during Christmas. Maybe share with him(if it's true) the things that his Dad enjoyed during the Christmas season.
2006-12-10 14:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Is it just at Christmas time that your son feels this way? Tell your son it is normal to feel sad without his dad. Maybe he feels guilty trying to celebrate and this conflicts with his sense of loss. Maybe you could think of some way to include his dad's memory in your celebrations.Maybe your family could make a little decoration for the Christmas tree. Each decoration could have a memory of his dad, from the friends and family who also miss him. Your son would discover how many people also loved his dad and that they also miss him.It could be a celebration tree. Your son could keep the decorations in a special box for him to read from time to time. Good luck.
2006-12-10 12:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him know that his father loved him so much that he wanted him to be happy for ever. Tell him that his father is always around watching him grow and have fun.
2006-12-12 10:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by arulanjaneyan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have a father either and get sad around christmas time sometimes. tell him his dad is in a better place now and is spending christmmas with him. tell him his dad is right there next to him and loves him. thats what my mom says.
2006-12-12 14:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They feed off your emotions too.Are u sure u not giving him some kind of feeling like he shouldn't be happy. Remember he knows this was your husband too.Maybe he might think it isn't okay to enjoy Xmas.Just a thought.I wish u and your boy a Merry Xmas
2006-12-10 12:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try finding out some things he used to do with his dad around Christmas time and try to do whatever he used to do with him.
2006-12-10 11:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by Rikki-Bobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is still in pain,there is no way to 'fix him', but you can help. if you sit down and make sure to talk about his father, what he liked to do, what he was like. your son can feel a little better. people mourn for different lenths of time. you just have to comfort your son. let him know that you'll stick with him. scars heal, but slowly.
2006-12-10 11:28:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sarissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋