How do i actually forget her and not care anymore??
it's been a month. i should have a life already. she was attracted to me but didnt find me interesting, so she dumped me. i even wrote her a closure letter, and even said there that i still find her interesting...she replied shes busy and says be well..its my first time to be dumped. its hard that she doesnt smile anymore when she sees me, and i have to pretend not to have seen her...i think she does the same. we go to the same small college. i feel like i still want to pursue her bcoz she hasnt seen the REAL me.
2006-12-10 11:10:30 · 4 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to say it, but you definitely should NOT pursue her. Sorry it has been difficult for you. Ask yourself, sincerely - is it your heart that hurts or your ego? Usually it is the latter that makes the pain last.
Pursuing her now will make you look like a desperate or not too bright person. Plus, you should respect her words, she said she doesn't want you, accept it. As harsh as that sounds, think about it. What if you told a girl you are not into her and she wouldn't go away? You'd probably think she's a stalker and a psycho.
Is it possible to forget? Hopefully, NO! Your lifetime is and will be filled with happy and sad memories. You get to learn from your heartbreaks. The lessons are no fun at the time, but if you pay attention, you won't have to go through it again. Now, going forward, always be the REAL you. If you pretend to be something else, you will not be able to keep it up forever.
2006-12-10 11:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by lovely-to-be-me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on meet other people even though u go 2 a small college u have access to the internet so therefore the world is at ur fingertips use it there r millions of people no the net 4 u 2 meet chat with and get 2 know and get ur mind off of her i used it to get over my ex and i have met some really cool and interesting people i probably would have never met
2006-12-10 19:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes persistence pays off. you should give yourself another opportunity to allow her to see the real you. there is a way you can let her know without seeming like a stalker. sometimes girls overlook genuine people and go for the lame guys who treat them like dirt. just give it another try.
2006-12-10 19:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by n3rdluvr2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's best to leave her alone, otherwise it might resemble stalking. If you both are in the same circles, let her watch the real you come out, from afar. If she likes what she sees, she'll come to you. (and that's even better)
2006-12-10 19:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋