I thought I loved my girlfriend. When we first met everything was perfect. We've been together over a year now. Slowly she started to grow protective, and through the months she's gotten really over protective for no reason at all. It was at about this point when I could feel my love for her declining. She will not allow me to talk to other girls for any reason whatsoever, not even the girls that were already my friends. I can't look at them for any reason either. Well, a few months into our relationship my brother got a girlfriend, well they didn't work out but she and I stayed friends. This was back when my gf didn't care who I was friends with. Well I still talk to this girl online, and I feel bad for breaking my gf's "rule". But the only thing we ever talk about is my gf, and she helps me with my problems, that's why we're good friends. Well, I'm starting to fall for this other girl, and she's falling fo rme too. Mind you, I DO NOT flirt with her, I know that's wrong. Am I wrong?
2006-12-10 10:57:10 · 4 answers · asked by Buck D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have confronted my gf about her over proctiveness. she says she doesn't trust me, never will, and that you don't need trust to love someone. In fact I've talked to her so many times I can't count them. I feel bad for having feelings for this other girl, but she's really a good person. What do I do?
2006-12-10 10:58:50 · update #1
trust is absolutely fundamental with any relationship. i dont know where she's coming from with that. if she doesnt trust you then there's no way she can say her love is the real deal. maybe the reason youre still together is because its been a long relationship and the thought of not being together is too much for either of you to handle?
idk, this is a tough one, but i do know that without trust you dont have love. you need to tell her that.
2006-12-10 11:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by evita2usally 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust, Communication, and Love itself are the keys to making a relationship work. You should really find out why your gf has changed, and talk to her bout it. If you guys can work things out than if you still like her than stick with her. But if she doesnlt explain anything than i guess you should well break it off id say cuz trust is a very imortant matter. Itz not wrong that your falling for this other girl but you have to be honest with your current gf and yourself on how your feeling about everything that ahs been hapening
2006-12-10 19:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend has a lot of growing up to do. Yes, you DO need trust to have a good relationship...that is the basis of one. If she says she does not trust you, nor will she ever, why are you wasting your time? Tell her to go find someone she trusts! She sounds like a real ball and chain......get rid of her!
As far as your brother's ex....leave that one alone. She was with your brother and it's an unspoken rule that you don't go after your family member's ex's.
2006-12-10 19:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur gf doesnt trust u then shes not worth it. she is dead wrong. a relationship is BUILT on trust. i mean look at wats happening. she doesnt trust u and ur starting not to love her. thats wat happens wen a person doesnt trust some1. if u like this other girl and shes likes u then to me its obvious. be gentle with ur gf but tell her u cant go out with her if she cant trust u and then ask out the other girl. be sure u talk to ur gf FIRST. hope this helps!!! :D Good Luck!!!!!!
2006-12-10 19:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋