It has been 2 years since I broke up with my last girlfriend, I had to find out the hard way she never loved me and was with me just for the $$$$ and drained my account in the process. I am a 23 yr old college student attending Community College and still living at home, so I kinda feel like a loser. Eventually I will be moving out of the country next year to Germany where I used to live. My question is should I just give up on ever finding love? The more I think about it the more I cry(yes cry) and the more I realize that every girl I meet is either in a relationship with a jerk or just leads me on. I haven't been on a date in 2 years, that's not normal. I get comments all the time oh you are attractive and handsome, oh there ar eplenty of fish in the sea, and my favorite let love find you. I am afriad of being alone for the rest of my life and never marrying while my friends will all live happily ever after. It's like waiting for a train that'll never come. What should I do?
2006-12-10 10:34:31 · 12 answers · asked by trancemix 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your overreacting! Your find love don't worry!
2006-12-10 10:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my point of view, one coming from a woman who has been with the same person for six years and has never fought about money with her significant other, you should never give up. For a long, long time I thought no one would ever love me for who I truly was. Then I met my boyfriend. We have been together for six years. When we met, my father was abusing me. My mother was an alcoholic and I had little faith that my life would ever change.
He convinced me that I wasn't ugly and that I had some worth in the world. I helped him when he needed me but I, like you, had nothing but love to offer him. I'm sure, that even if you don't have any money and you live with your parents, as long as you have some ambition and good sense, a girl will find your CHARACTER attractive.
My boyfriend isn't ugly but he's no Tom Cruse. He also doesn't make very much money... but we worked together and now we have a house and a decent car. We're both almost done with school. He's 26 and i'm 23. It's been a long, hard, bumpy road... not just because of outside influences but also because we haven't always seen things eye-to-eye.
My main point is... not all women are the same. I won't tell you there are lots of fish in the sea, just a majority of younger women are garbage when it comes to truly loving for character and not for material possessions. I would never even dream of stealing money from my boyfriend (fiance now). The older women get, the more they want to settle down. They start looking for someone who can satisfy their need to be truly connected with another human being. Those are the ones you want to look for... maybe not ones looking for marriage... but ones who want something long-term and meaningful.
Don't give up. Finding this woman is not impossible.
2006-12-10 10:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by got_chii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First step, don't despair. I can relate to your situation, and the most important thing you need to do is get your own act together. By this I mean that you need to build up your confidence by being physically fit, dressing well, get your grooming act together, and learn to be confident in your solitude as a man. Just because you live at home while going to college doesn't mean a thing, tons of people have girlfriends doing this, and I mean high quality girls too who understand that you are working your way up into the world over time. If they don't then they're shallow, pass them by.
Don't spend too much time dwelling on this either, it gives off the aura that you're desperate to girls who see you, they can sense this. Just keep in mind that you should not aim low at all, get your own act together and you'll be surprised at how much a confident young guy is a magnet.
2006-12-10 10:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
enable it pass! Love is a ton of eye-catching poems, costs, moments, etc. yet love if additionally a figment of the mind's eye. If rapidly somebody zapped the reminiscence of him out of your suggestions, you may sense completely nice. attempt your ultimate to get distracted by using doing relaxing and effective events. Play a clean game, end your projects, volunteer at a homeless guard, help your chum along with her issues, etc.. there is not any longer something greater worthwhile and cheering than helping others and improving your self. it's going to take your suggestions off your guy or woman own concerns and you would be doing good for yet another. Who knows, perhaps in this self discovery you will meet a super type of recent acquaintances and a clean version of your self :-)
2016-10-05 03:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 23. so your girlfriend used you for money. i'm sure that's not the first time it ever happped to someone. get over it and move on. have fun with your life instead of sitting home crying and wondering when you are going to find love. do you think a girl would want a guy who is pittying himself. NO.
2006-12-10 10:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by jungle cheeks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up, finish school - focus on that first. Then, open you heart/mind to an adventure while you are in Germany next year. You never know when love might surprise you.
2006-12-10 10:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by Jeska 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best advise to you is to never give up...I too am 23 and have been alone for roughly a year and a half...and yet attempt to maintain the delusion that I am attractive to women and that eventually I will find someone who will truly love me...
2006-12-10 10:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my what a big cry baby you are...! Maybe when you stop feeling sorry for yourself and mature you'll be able to figure out by yourself what to do next.
2006-12-10 10:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont give up there is someone out there waiting for you to notice them
2006-12-10 10:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sexii_Babe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give it up compadre. Put your efforts towards money. Women are easy to steal away from you, but you can protect your money.
2006-12-10 10:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by Meatball ;) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋