We've done other things, but I am so scared of gettin pregnant, but at the same time I love him & want this to happen. Im just so conffuzled, I dont know what to do?!?!
2006-12-10 10:33:54 · 41 answers · asked by scared_worried_teen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well no one can really say if your too young or not but i mean it does sound liek it is. But thats up to you, think of it this way, yeah 4 yrs of goin out i applaud you for that. But risks are you mite get pregnant and voila there goes the great future you mite have in store. If this guy really ares for ya, he should understand that you mite not want to and force you to do sumthin your not ready for. Love is much more than just sex or making out with your partner, itz about caring for one another and being able to communicate well and all that good stuff. Id say wait till your liek married or sumthin, if things work out with him and im hoping ti does go well for you guys than yay. But if he truly cares, he should understand where your coming from. One nite of pleasure could make a whole life time difference.
2006-12-10 10:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's your choice, and I don't have the right to stop you, but I'm going to tell you what the consequences of having sex... so you know.
When you have sex, pregnancy shouldn't be your first concern. It's STDs. Those are far more deadly, some can lead to death or other diseases, some are curable and some are permanent. Women are more in danger than men. Even if you partner used a condom, it's not going to protect you. Also, even though you say you "love him" you guys aren't really in love. (For the love of God you only dated him for a year- that's not true love yet) It's more of a friendship/agape? love. Not the love a husband and a wife share. When you have sex, you're exposing everything to someone. And you don't just do that to a random person- it's someone you truly truly trust. If you just "expose" your body to a guy whom you're not going to be with forever, you're just destroying your body. Oh and by the way, normally people who have premarital sex... they're not gonna be couples forever. So you can't be certain that you and your boyfriend are gonna be together FOREVER- so don't just waste sex on him. Save it for your husband-makes sex worthwhile.
It's not that I'm forcing you to not have sex, (I don't approve it) But I'm telling you this so that you know. So if something wrong happens to you when you have sex you won't say" I didn't know that this would happen."
2006-12-10 10:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh... YES, 15 is WAY to young. Its girls like you that creep me out...shouldnt you be worrying about school...i didnthave time for boys n school...and i sooo happy that i am waitng for the right time/guy. Im 18. Im not saying wait until marrige, but at least wait until your 18/19 and not so hormone crazed.
and, im sorry but if your scared then its obviously not the right time luv. As for the we've done other things crap, yea im guessing t was something sexual, and im sorry buts its disgusting for a 15 to year old to engaging in those acts. I mean do you find time to do these "things" and does your parents know or care...i tell ya the generatons have gone to the dogs...EWWWW!!!! have more respect for your self...
well, what ever you do jus think will you be able to live with it...and i hope i didnt offend you or anyone else, but i tell you the times have changed love...and im only 18!!! lol any ways,
peace and love- chai
2006-12-10 12:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by chai 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly honey, there is no age limit on sex. It's a maturity thing. Don't let your boyfriend pressure you into it. If your not ready, tell him. If he cares about you, then he'll accept that fact. If your afraid of getting pregnant, use birth control. Condoms are the most effective, but if you can't get them there are less effective methods that work. Just make sure you do something. Make sure he's the one and your not going to regret this and that you love him. I'm not saying wait for marriage, Im just saying make sure you love him. Do what you want and try to be safe.
2006-12-10 10:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't!!! You are 4 times more likely to get an STD than to get pregnant!!! I am 15 too and know that sex is ment for married couples. I would wait until then for that one special person. I don't know your boyfriend but he may be in this relationship for the physical aspects of it. Once you have had sex, what next? All you are doing is satisfying his hunger for it. He could dump you and move on to the next girl willing to give him what he wants. If he isn't like that and he truly loves you for who you are then he doesn't need to have sex to be happy. Don't. What you have is special and you are worth waiting for. If you love him you would save it for when you are married. Hey, what if you do get pregnant? Will he run from the problem? Babies are blessings and not curses. But at this age... you know what I mean. Don't. Save yourself the hurt.
If you make the choice to have sex (please don't) than remember wearing protection doesn't always work (to keep you from getting pregnant) and you can still get ANY STD. I know this because I am part of a presenting group from New Life Teen Advisors. (A branch from a Pregnancy Center) And whatever happens, if you do get pregnant, don't abort the baby. You will regret it perhaps for the rest of your life. I have seen too many people's lives torn apart because of chooseing to abort their BABY. It is not worth the pain.
I hope you find your answer and follow your heart on this one. Please don't.
2006-12-10 10:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sonshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok 15 is far too young. are you ready to have a kid? if yes go for it if no pound it into his head your not ready. if you guys really love each other you will wait cuz if yous do it and you get pregnet that will destroy what yous have.im a year younger than you and i know im not ready and i do have a bf and yes we have talked about those things and neither of us want it.just dont do anything stupid a baby is for life. your childhood will be over. you will never be able to go out in high school colleg is going to be hard and im sure your parents have there own life and dont want to have to rais your child when your at school. are you ready for all that? for your life to be over at 15. think about everything i have just told you. well i hope i have helped you.
2006-12-10 10:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by sk8erhjk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have is a horny bf. This is normal for boys at that age. However, you need to do what is best for you and not for him. It really sounds like you are not only too young, but not ready. At 15, he probably is not going to be a keeper for the long run and is ready to brag to his friends that he got you (again normal boy behavior).
My advice is to wait until you are at least 18, no matter what some boy says you will not be the only virgin. And, if your not ready then, wait until you have the right person.
2006-12-10 10:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT!!!! you ae too young to risk it.. its like playing russian rulette.. u never know if that condom he uses will break.. .think of all the things you will be missing if you were ot get pregnant.. having sex is not the only way to show a person you love them... and if you were to get pregnant what are the chanches your bf will go out and get a job and support you and the baby... just hold it off till your at least 18
2006-12-10 10:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
right now the only thing you should be focusing on is school and getting good grades,and having some fun time with your friends...i get the feeling your being talked into this, and the only reason your confused is because you really don't want to do it but at the same time you don't want to dissapoint your boyfriend...if he really cares for you than he should be able to understand that your not ready period point blank and yes 15 is too young to be having sex!!!
2006-12-10 10:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you 're body is ready but your insides aren't and getting pregnant too young can be really extra hard on you and the baby. Just tell yourself the truth..you got a lifetime for all that no reason to get started on it soon in life..plus what I always tell myself cause I found it out: The fantasy is always better than the reality. Plus its hard when you are young to be careful and it would be awful if you got AIDS just cause if a slip up.
2006-12-10 10:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by ssunfish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋