I mean I more than certain that she wont do it (shes just not that bold), but theres always that inkling in the back of my mind that I may never truly know. Im just tired of her using suicide as a cop out for me to be at least really close to her
2006-12-10 10:31:43 · 26 answers · asked by no6nda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make a date with her in the middle of the week in the middle of the afternoon. Pick her up, hand her some roses and keep her totally distracted as you drive her to a mental hospital! Seriously - get her some help!
2006-12-10 10:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by duckslayer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime a person constantly threats suicide, it is either a method of attention, or a cry for help! There is a fine line in this reguard because death by suicide is not a simple matter to cope with when or if it does happen. Do yourself (and hers) a favor and break it off once and for all, and then call the proper authorities to deal with that matter. Don't be afraid to call a suicide hotline, and report her...if she is not really suicidal, and is merely "crying wolf" to keep you, then the hotline will be able to determine that, and find her a support group. If she is really in need of some type of mental help, then either way it goes you will have done the right thing! Do it before you say something you might regret because she seem to be pulling on your last nerve...You don't want to tell her something stupid like "do it already".... She sounds like she lacks alot of self confidance.. Give yourself some type of sanity..make the call! So that both you and her can get on with your life.. If you let this drag on..it may be YEARS before you shake her loose!
2006-12-10 18:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called emotional blackmail. People without healthy boundaries or emotional stability use manipulation to get their needs met. Tell her what you just said that your tired of her using suicide as a threat and it is keeping the both of you from having a good friendship. You are never responsible for another's willful actions. If she is foolish enough to really do something, it is NOT your fault! Set limits or you will become an enabler and she will continue in this behavior.
2006-12-10 18:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by RBRN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love this girl then you wont have broken up with her right.I know that i told my ex that once and i tried to do it but he was there to stop me then i realized that even though we are not together it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me. The best thing for u to do is to sit and talk with your ex.let her know how u feel about this and what she is causing in your mind.So don't go on stressing ,just try and solve the matter.
2006-12-10 18:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by sweets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's something really mean that she's doing to you, but you have to deal with it now. I know this because I did it too. Try to keep an open mind and that it's not just about you and her not being together anymore. It's depression that's partly brought about by your breaking up. She needs help right now, from her friends, her family, and a counsellor. Maybe you two can get counselling together to learn to get on with your lives.
2006-12-10 18:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who actually commit suicide don't need an outside catalyst to do so. There is something wrong with their psyche from the beginning.
She uses the suicide ploy with you because it works. The next time she tells you that, tell her sorry you will miss her and then walk away.
2006-12-10 18:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Suggest she seek counselling.
2) Get counselling yourself.
3) If you're close to any of her friends, you might tell them to keep an eye on her.
4) Don't react to her manipulation. Even if she's serious, you can't bend your life around her. If you stayed with her, what happens next? She threatens to kill herself if you don't propose? You have to be kind, but firm.
2006-12-10 18:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The girl needs help!
You shouldn't have to feel pressured to get back togeather with her, but at the same time, I'm sure that you wouldn't want to take the chance that she does.
I'd say try to get her family or a councilor to help her
2006-12-10 18:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by galyaxz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell every single one of her family and friends about her threats.
Even if there's a .1% chance she'll do it, do you really want that on your conscience?
You probably can't help her anyway. She needs support outside of you.
Raise the alarm!!! It's the only way to free yourself and help her.
2006-12-10 18:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by ThatGuy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs help. If she does do anything it won't be your fault. It is all on her. Call the authorities and tell them what she has threatened, they might put her away for a few days.
2006-12-10 18:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by freedomchild99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋