I'm 18 years old and judging from the title, you might have inferred that i'm a virgin. I'm a virgin by choice and not because i can't get any. Anyway, check out this little story about me that leads to this revelation.
I really couldn't get any when i was around 14-16. I was shy and always hesistant to ask. I was a reserved person by nature. My friends would always "get some" during the weekends. They tried to bring me along on their weekend escapades, but i always thought myself to be just a tag-along. So i always declined their offer. I got older and i became a senior. I got proposals to go on dates and have sex, but for some reason i turned them down. I don't know why and i didn't have good reasons. Bear in mind, this was just last year, my mindset has dramatically altered or anything. I just feel like something big is going to happen for me and i'm going to meet the woman of my dreams. But check this out
2006-12-10 09:39:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
. I like girls, ehem, I meant woman, but I everyone of them I see I always resist the urge to take a friend relationship to the next level. Come to think of it, I don’t even have many friends that are girls. There was this one time that I thought I like this girl when I was 17, but then I asked myself why? Why did I like this person? She was my friend’s ex-girlfriend and I knew every sexual act they did. It turned me on. I would try to give her subtle sexual innuendoes, never any physical coquetry. She reciprocated those. I could tell she was in to me, but was it me she was into? Or was it the idea of ‘sleeping with her ex’s friend for revenge’ idea that she was into. I knew that she was a liar, a hypocrite, an alcohol and drug abuser, and slept around quite a few times, but still, I liked her. I later decided that I liker her for her looks.
2006-12-10 09:40:52 · update #1
. I really was planning on trying to get her in the sack, but later I aborted that plan. I feel like chicken **** because I did it, or didn’t do it. i’m probably a coward for not making something of the situation, but we’ll never know if I would have received gratitude out of doing it. Right now, I’m in college and I get some second looks by girls, but I don’t approach them. I’m not in any hurry to have sex, but am I missing out on something? To say I’m a virgin, is that self-righteous? Because of the fact that we live life only once, is that plenty reasonable for me to go out and plow through some hoodrats? Is my future girlfriend going to dump me because I’m not don juan in the bed? So many questions. I know, but please offer me a solution. Hit it or quit it? (quit it referring to the idea of losing it)
2006-12-10 09:41:09 · update #2
What's the problem? Being a virgin is definitely a good thing, i'm a virgin too, and not because I can't 'get none' either. You won't regret it once you meet the girl of your dreams, trust me.
2006-12-10 09:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i used to be very shy and never had many friends as a teen. never dated as a teen. finally in my mid 20s, i developed relationships.
never really knew what my true feelings were about sex. i knew that i'd never want to have a one night stand or casual sex. i always knew i wanted love first.
at 24, i had some chances with girlfriends, but still didn't feel right about it.
anyway, still a virgin at 32, and i know what i want and i know what conditions need to be met before i will be ready to do it.
don't just do it for the sake of doing it. so many people i know say they regret their teenage sex..
try to get with a woman you love. develop a strong relationship, and then sex will happen when you are both ready for it. at least you'll be able to say that you never had meaningless sex in your life.. you are still young and have lots of life to live.. it will happen.. it just might take time.. don't listen to society that says that everyone should lose their virginity at 14, cuz that is just not right.
2006-12-10 09:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that u shouldnt be in any hurry to lose it to tell u the truth am also a virgin and am not shy or afraid to say the truth is just a choice of mine to be one. so dont sweat it i think u should do whatever u want to but trust me if u meet a girl and she want to have sex and u dont wnat to and she understands u then shes the right girl for u b/c she willing to wait for u so when ever u feel confrouble so dont worry and things happen for a reason
2006-12-10 09:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, that's a good thing, dude. There's a lot of guys out there just like you. I'm one of them. Being a virgin is really not overrated.
It's a good thing to wait for the woman of your dreams to lose it to, because she generally (for lack of a better way to put it) falls right into your lap if you wait for her. Plus, losing it to that woman will make your experience a lot more special in the long run. You'll be glad you waited for the right one to come along.
2006-12-10 09:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by brainiac159 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
^^^ i admire the guy who reported this board is finished of little childrens and that they have got not any adventure. its actual. yet no i dont think of that's puffed up. in all probability b/c 18 too and im additionally on the virgin practice :) yet virgins like virgins, and experienced human beings like experienced human beings. dont rigidity approximately it, its not as enormous of a deal for adult men because it quite is for females. adult men wont be in soreness or bleed everywhere like women do.
2016-10-14 10:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question ... NO !!! -it's under-rated !!! Anyone can lose their virginity, no matter how intelligent you believe you are or conversely, how stupid. It takes someone special to retain it ! The world is full of over-rated non-virgins ... but few under-rated ones ! You sound like your a thinker before a doer. You don't like to follow the crowd both, the dumb and the "smart" ones ... good leader traits !!!
2006-12-10 09:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not overrated. i'm not sure why everyone thinks that you need to have sex to prove your committment to one another, but i personally think that it's a lot better to have a relationship based on communication and trust rather than just physical attraction and sex alone, cuz eventually that's all going to fade, and then you're left with nothing. if you feel like you don't want to have sex with someone just for the heck of it, that's cool. if you meet someone you really think you like and you think you want to go ahead, just think it through and use protection-it's the safest way to go. whatever you decide to do, just make sure that you're still going to respect yourself when it's over.
2006-12-10 09:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by missizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, being a virgin is not a bad thing.. in my opinion,the first time is very speacial and must be with someone special.. be relax about that, it is your choice and no one has a right to judge you (i mean your friends..etc).. i think you should wait for the "right person" and it is obvious that you think the same way.. otherwise you wouldnt reject prposes
2006-12-10 09:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i myself am also a virgin, it's not a bad thing because the person that you marry will have a clean person to themselves and you will feel better about knowing that you saved that special moment just for them.
2006-12-10 09:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's hardly overrated!
i feel that sex is a LOT more special when you offer it to only, hopefully, one person.
i mean...do you like it when you're handed a used tissue?
it all depends on the person. don't feel pressured into "getting some."
i say you wait for that woman of your dreams your imagining. :]
2006-12-10 09:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by kristin y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋