Ok so here is the scenario! My parents have a certain way they want me to LIVE my own life. But there are a couple of things that I just want to know if it is normal or not.
1. I recently informed my mom that I had experienced sexual abuse as a child by a member of our church and her response at first was that she was shocked. But when she got home and talked to my father, I overheard their conversation and heard her say " I dont feel like we should accuse (him) or even ask about it, because you know how girls lie about things like that" and my father's response was to ask me to stay away from my lab top b/c radiation can cause insanity. And we havent brought it up since...
#2. I just got into an arguement with them and I was telling them my point of view on the situation and they completely started talking about where they are going out to dinner for tonight. Like switched the convo completely...
2006-12-10 09:35:09 · 7 answers · asked by Lovely*~*Layla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my grandfather touched me when I was younger. My mom, his daughter, did the same thing to me. I was not believed which hurt me a lot. We he passed I didn't shed a tear. I got yelled out because I didn't "show respect for the dead". Sorry but lost respect a long time before he died. I have also had the same thing happen about the parents changing the subject. I interjected loudly and said, "Hey, I was talking." They looked at me like I was nuts but I finished what I was saying. Some parents are so wrapped up i their own lives that their kids just fall through the cracks.
2006-12-10 09:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Donna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not really normal. But then what is?!
It seem's like your parents are unable to cope with the idea that this person sexually assulted you. Try writing them a letter telling them again, with everything you want to say.
Speak with a more understanding family member, or even a third party infulence like a councillor to help you get some perspective on the situation. You're not alone. If you're still unsure, check your local community for sexual abuse helpline's/ groups services. They are there to help you. good luck.
2006-12-10 17:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you it's terrible that you were abused and even more terrible that your parents are treating you like you're the problem. This is NOT normal. Parents must protect their children. I would approach a teacher or counsellor at school and ask them about it. I think your parents are under the influence of this guy and would rather protect him than help their own daughter. That's sick...
2006-12-10 17:52:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. When i was little i got ignored. What i did was go to therapy, of course my parents made me. But all you can do is live your life the best you can. and when you get older they will regret of what they done to you. Same thing with my parents.
2006-12-10 18:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by koalabear200416 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear this i know it sucks when someone ignores you like oyu don't even exsist. if your parents won't listen turn to your grandparents maybe its hard for myour parents to accept that in a church where things are supposed to be good and holy someone could commit such a horrible act. but it does happen and i'm sorry it happened to you but you have to sit your parents down and force them to listen to what you have to say!
2006-12-10 18:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lovin life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Im sorry about that.
My dad ignores me too.
Just forget them..find trustworthy friends
2006-12-10 17:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by emyliciousss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They cant handle wat u have told them about the abuse u need to get help. Go talk to someone about this please
2006-12-10 19:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋