What does a guy do when he doesn't know the right one?

Question

I have finally found my 5 year old son after 2 years of searching. His mother thinks that we should try to work things out. I agree. I have also met some one else. she is an awesome person. which one do i choose?

Answer 1

You question is not quite clear: Why were you searching for your son for 2 years? Were you separated from his mother or did she leave and did not inform you of where they lived? Did you want to be a part of his life (and were not allowed) or have you now decided to be a part of his life?

However, regarding the situation between you, your son's mother and the other woman you have met: How do you feel about your son's mother? Do you want to try to work things out with her because you have feelings for her or because you wish to remain in touch with your son?

If you want to "try to work things out" with your son's mother just because of your son, that is the absolute wrong reason. How do you feel about this other person? It is a tough decision you have to make. I would seriously examine how you truly feel about your son's mother --- do you really see yourself with this person? Is she worth giving up someone (the other woman) who may truly be perfect for you? Remember that this other woman has been there for you during these times as well.

I would speak to your other friend and let her know that you are now involved with your son's mother (on speaking terms), and are thinking about things, but reassure her that you truly do feel for her. You owe her that much. While it may be honorable to want to have a "whole household" for the sake of your son, your own mental and emotional health is important as well. If you truly love this other woman, there is no reason why you cannot be with your woman, and have a relationship with your son, while remaining cordial towards his mother.

It is a tough decision you have to make and I wish you good luck.

Answer 2

You can just ditch your current girlfriend for ur baby's mama. u need to think back at why is it that it didnt work out between u two before. if u were single then it would have been completely ok to try to get back with her and work things out. since u r not, handle it like a men and just take care of your child while staying with your current girlfriend. good luck :)