ive been arguing with my bf about things that he does, hes mostly in his own little world bitting his nail, watching tv and ask me to do his laundry all the time and watch his kid while he naps a lil longer he told me hell changed so many times but he still hasnt and im sick of it he called me back few mins ago and ask whats my decision and i dont know what to tell him.
2006-12-10 09:31:48 · 18 answers · asked by playboyluv_24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
decision about what sounds like he is using you
2006-12-10 09:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by yours truly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my own experience you can not change anyone. they have to do it on there own and they have to want to do it. If he is happy this way then he will not change and he will just keep telling you he will. You are going to have to decide if you can live your life like this. Do not let it go to far. there is a child in the equation and that child needs and deserves stability in his or her life. So decide if you can life with the fathers short comings and be there for this child. You have some thinking to do. Good luck
2006-12-10 17:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by anne04char 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship takes two people contributing. Right now, it looks like you're the only one giving in this relationship, and he's just taking, taking, taking. I think he needs to smarten up, get organized, and take care of his own kid as much as possible. Until he looks like he's changing, it would probably be for the best if you left him. Best of luck with your choice!
2006-12-10 17:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by jennabeanski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are having problems living with the little things that he does, then its not going to work out in the long run, you need to face the truth of thats who he is and that what he does, and there really isnt much you can do to change that. but you can try to change things, but only one thing at a time, slowly, and with his cooperation. but good luck with that, its going to be difficult. the best advice i can give to you is that he is lways going to be liek that and you cant change him, so live with it.
2006-12-10 17:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by Chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his ***. He does not respect you. He treats you like crap and you let him. This will do omore damage to you over time. Tell him no. Don't take any more of his calls andd get away from him. Next time, don't become a man's doormat. Focus on you and don't be too available.
2006-12-10 17:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by kryptychyck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should ask urself if u are happy...
u cant change people, if the situation doesnt work for u then maybe u should end it before it gets harder too....however maybe ur just going over a rough patch. but if these are things that really bother u, maybe u should explain to him... if things dont change maybe say good bye?
2006-12-10 17:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by *Spam* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need a break for a while (which you probably do). It would benefit both of you. It would give you time to think and it might make him realize what a shitt he has been and make him get his act together. Good Luck!
2006-12-10 17:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
def leave him now. You can find some1 better that will treat u with respect. If u'll stay with him he'll never change bc why should he if ur gona do everything for him. If he can't even take care of himself why did he have kids????
2006-12-10 17:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Cr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason to be his maid, or beck and call, unless he really does do special things for you.
It doesn't sound to me he is really careing right now. I wouldn't answer him for awhile.
This one guy I know...........he does that........asks if the mind has been made up.............he just wants to know, so he can run right out and get the next victim
2006-12-10 17:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I have been married 5 years and those things they do don't get better they get worse. I am happy but if your man can't straighten up now. Worsen him by a couple more years, do you want that?
2006-12-10 17:36:05 · answer #10 · answered by meljghays 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really cares about you, he would try to listen to your complaints and try to decrease the amount of problems between you too. I think he is just using you...What you decide after this is up to you.
2006-12-10 17:35:00 · answer #11 · answered by Trinity Balthazar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋