I have known a man for 3 years and his been married, but we fell in love. How ever he sayd that he would get into a big trouble and not be able to provide for his kids if his wife took all of his assetts. So he said it takes time to sort things out. However i havent spoken to him in 6 months before recently because he phoned me. Apparantly he said he still loved me to bits. We decided to be friends but it didnt work out because of how we feel inside. Anyway know i had to tell him that i dont want to hear fom him again and want to end it. I want him to be all mine and wanted to meet his kids and be there. Im affrad i might never see him again and i love him so much. What should i do?
2006-12-10 09:15:41 · 17 answers · asked by Kittykat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesnt live with his wife. and doesnt love her anymore.
2006-12-10 09:20:28 · update #1
Please please never go out with a married man again. If he cheats with you, he will cheat ON YOU.
I know you feel love for him. But, think about this. In his marriage he made a vow to love, honor, cherish, be faithful to her. Look how bad he kept that promise. And you were part of that.
Most married men use a woman for sex. They might be very fond or even love the woman, but when it comes right down to it, she will always get the left overs.
A big clue is that if a man won't let you meet his kids, his friends, most likely you never will. You are his dirty little secret.
He might actually love you to bits, but his loves other things more.
Please don't see him again. All of us have someone in our lives that we love but can't be with. You are just going to have to move on.
You already wasted time with him. He might string you along for many years and in the end you are still his secret.
You are worthy of a man of your own.
2006-12-10 10:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did not make a mistake by letting him go. It's only right that you let him go. If you did not, there would be so many problems and things are going to get convoluted. Do not go for a guy who is going to get married. It's going to break your heart. It's ok, be strong and let him go. You are going to meet someone you can love more than him. You love him, but he is going to get married.. He should not have feelings for you and he might say he loves you. Do you think he would acutally leave his wife?You do not want to ruin the family he's going to get married with. Once again, remember..it isnt a mistake.
STAY STRONG!!
2006-12-10 17:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by OrangeBlitz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For get about him. If you have been together for 3 years already and he still hasn't left his wife, then he never will. For get about him and get a single man that has eyes for only you. In the end he will only hurt you, and if he is doing this to his wife, he will probably do it to you to.
2006-12-10 17:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by quileter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him back and tell him you want to be his mistress. At the end of the day, that is the best formula for you two. Look at it this way. If he divorced his wife and married you to be "all yours", then he'd need another mistress. So back to square one, except the first wife's gonna be with half of his assests and there'd be less for you and the new mistress.
2006-12-10 17:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Armanis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually you will get over him, but you will never forget him. You did do the right thing because you don't want him to cheat on his wife. You will find a guy who is better for you and actually deserves you.
2006-12-10 17:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Ana Erikson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this married man. Although, the two of you are very deeply in LUST, please realize that if he cheats with you he will cheat on you. Your relationship is absolutely wrong, no matter how you look at it. Get as far away from this guy as possible and never allow him into your life again. Please find a single gentleman to connect with so you can feel good about yourself again because you are being majorly "used".
2006-12-10 17:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He obviously can't be with you due to the fact that his wife make take all his assets. So that can't be helped. He's not the only man in a sea of fish by the way.
2006-12-10 17:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by Trinity Balthazar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If He's married, BACK OFF. He shouldn't be having feelings for you in the first place, and you shouldn't have told him how you felt.
But you can't help how you feel, and I can understand that, but you should completely back off. If he's doing this to his wife, he will do it to you if you end up with him.
2006-12-10 17:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by memoriesareabeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been married for three years and hasnt left his wife for you by now it will never happen. I hate to say it but you were being used and he never intended on leaving his wife.
2006-12-10 17:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is married, walk away. Plus, if he was completely yours, what makes you think that he wouldn't do the same thing to you. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Good Luck
2006-12-10 17:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by stopbuyingoil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋