2006-12-10 09:10:04 · 9 answers · asked by Martha s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It means to pay respects, to relate that you feel sad for someone.
2006-12-10 09:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by Yngona D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is best to say how sorry you are for the person's loss, and if you knew their loved one, to perhaps share a good memory of that person. The fact that you are present is what will be remembered most, rather than what you say. In the weeks and months following the death of their loved one, it can be a huge help to people to stay in touch with them. So many people intend to do this, but forget, and that may be when they need you most. It can be a simple phone call, an invitation to a meal, or whatever you think the person might like to do. If they want to talk, let them talk. If they simply want companionable silence, that's good too. Many people who are grieving believe that they will be "bothering" someone if they call, so be active in making contact after the funeral is over and the flowers have faded.
2006-12-10 09:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello. I am a Funeral Director.
No rules on what is best.
At work - I never express sympathy -- to me it seems fake....... Sorry for your loss now give me money ---- See what I mean.
Personally the best way -- Keep it short -- let the bereaved lead if the want to after thr initial contact.
Another way is to change tac straight away.
For example--- Sorry for your loss, How is Aunt Mary (or a friend you both know) so long since I saw her.
BUT BE SINCERE.... Do not offer to help unless you are able to help if asked.
Neville
2006-12-10 09:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by Neville J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they initiate a hug, accept it and RETURN it. In most cases, a simple "I'm sorry for your loss" or" I was sorry to hear about your loss" is enough. Then just shut up and let the party in question talk, that's what they need, to TALK. A hand on their shoulder and the other holding their hand is a gesture that speaks volumes.
2006-12-10 09:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by dance22s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As salaamu 'alaikym warahmatullahi wabaraktuh, my chum. Insha'Allah, love without the strikes that coach an analogous isn't love. it incredibly is in simple terms words. words of love would excite yet they cool too, too with out postpone. Love is a shy look and a grin, a hand to hold, a walk in autumn leaves, working mutually as you play chase with the waves on the shore. Love is waking up at evening to ascertain the celebs and the moon, or going outdoors to capture snow flakes. Love is sharing iced tea on a warm day, or warm chocolate on a chilly one. Love is the little sacrifices ones makes for the different with out ever stating them or soliciting for an analogous in type. Love is the two what we do and who we are. Love, insha'Allah, is the main eye-catching and effective present we receive from Allah, Subhanna wa Ta'ala, for no longer purely leads us to a minimum of one yet another, it additionally leads us to Allah, Subhanna wa Ta'ala. Ma'a salaam.
2016-10-05 03:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My facial expressions usually change. I also tend to offer a hug or just let that person talk.
2006-12-10 09:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PEOPLE DO NEED TO BE COMFORTED IN THEIR TIME OF SADNESS. A WARM HUG IS GOOD AND A SINCERE FACE WITH A GOOD COMMENT ABOUT THE PERSON WHO IS ILL OR DYING. I HAVE SO MANY PEOPLE PASS IN MY FAMILY IT'S NOT FUNNY. THE LAST WAS MY SISTER AT AGE 35 AND IT MADE ME FEEL GOOD THAT THE PEOPLE SHE WORKED WITH CAME TO HER FUNERAL AND SAID NICE THINGS ABOUT HER. IT MADE ME FEEL LIKE THEY KNEW HOW GOOD SHE WAS.
2006-12-10 10:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by jayndee13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ask "how are you doing?" The person is obviously grieving. Just tell them you will be there for anything they may need.
2006-12-10 09:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by Michael T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can say something like, "I'm sorry for your loss."
2006-12-10 20:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋