How do you get rid of bitterness due to things you just cannot change in yr life but that will always be there

Question

You know you have to put up with it all your life and you have managed just about so far, but it seems to kill you and you
do not knwo not why you should bear it any longer. It is something that strikes your inner personal feelings that you cannot change and will always be there. I am not saying I am the only one suffering .
Help. Only answer if you seriously have soemthing to say.

Answer 1

I HAVE HELD GRUDGES FOR YEARS WHICH HAVE LED ME TO YEARS OF BITTERNESS AND NEEDLESS HEARTACHE,IT MIGHT SOUND CORNY BUT PRAYING TO GOD HAS HELPED EASED THE PAIN,ALSO FORGIVE THOSE WHO HAVE HURT YOU AS WELL AS FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR YOU ARE LIKELY AS MUCH TO BLAME FOR THE BITTERNESS IN YOUR HEART.
GOD BLESS!

Answer 2

I guess I know where you are going with this... It seems that there are some things in your life that just will not change. No matter if it's you and your habits or others and their habits, right?

Well, I'm not old and wise (sometimes I'd like to think I am, though!), but I do know that the more you let things bother you the more bitter you will be. There;s a guy that I work with that is always in a bad mood. Don't come near him, don't talk to him unless absolutely necessary. It's as if he had a rock in each of his shoes, judging from the way he walks. I tried to get on his good side, tried to be nice, bring in the newspaper and leave it out for him to browse, etc. Nothing worked. If anything, it just made him dislike me even more than anyone else at work.

I eventually asked another coworker what the deal was. Turns out that's just the way he is. He likes being miserable and making others miserable in the process. I went home that afternoon and decided that I was not going to be like him when I was his age. Now, granted, I'm a good ways away from being his age, but I know that there are some bad habits I have that just need to go. So here goes:

When someone does something I didn't like or appreciate, I decided the best way to deal with it was to say it once, in a stern and calm voice, give ONE good reason why it should not be done again (and it better be something more substantial that 'because it gets on my nerves') and go on. Chances are that they will remember the terse comment much better than a shouting match. And you'll eventually earn the respect of the person who you had the disagreement with just because it never got to be a screaming match.

Find a way to laugh when people screw up in front of you. A good example is those electronic sound effect keychains. Someone cuts you off in traffic, drop a bomb on him. or laser-zap them. Makes it a joke, you relieve some stress, and you laugh about it.

Get a good pair of boxing gloves, pick a spot on a cement wall, and punch that same spot until you can get rid of the red haze in front of your eyes. That's the destructive road.

A more constructive road is just to find some way to express yourself artistically. Write a journal, start a blog. Or go to a craft supply and buy five pounds of prepared porcelain clay and just sculpt. Buy a sketch pad and colored pencils and see if you can put your frustrations on paper (Van Gogh did that!).

Hope this helps you with your grim outlook on the world.

Answer 3

Easy. This is for your benefit.

Forgiveness is the key.
Forgive anyone, anything, at any time.

1. Make a list of what's bugging you, yes write down every person, everything, and all those names you call yourself.

2. Make a list of qualities you admire in others, yes, all of those good things, and see if you have some of those same qualities.

3. Take the what's bugging you list and tear it up and throw it away. It served a purpose and that is to show you what's bugging you down deep.
Everytime you feel stuck make a new list and after you're done, you know where to file it!
LOL

4. Take the good list, and add where you want to travel in your lifetime, yes all of those lovely places, what education you want to add, what career you really want, and how you want your family to be. Dream, yes big dreams.

5. At least once a day, try at night, to make a list of 3 things that you are grateful for during that one day. This is your gratitude list, and keep it going.
Your appreciation of what you value will last a lifetime.

6. Be gentle with yourself, and remember when you forgive others, you release them to the universe. You don't have to bother with that again, but if you start thinking about them, just say to yourself, I released you to forgive you!

7. Smile, and practice smiling everytime you pass a mirror, yes a big smile, because you are taking back control, and releasing the past, and everything to forgive everyone.

Thanks GOD for everything!
GOD bless.