I've had my heart broken by guys a lot in my life. I had given up... Thinking that all men are the same. I had been single for a year and met this guy a decided to finally give a man a chance to prove me wrong how I feel about guys.... and what does he do.... Break my heart like all the others..... anyone who's been through this heartache..... Have you given up yet? If not, what makes you still strong to keep trying?
2006-12-10 08:53:58 · 17 answers · asked by Manita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I've had that done by girls. I think it's probably something to do with the kinds of guys you date. I haven't given up because I haven't really tried THAT hard to find a good woman . . . I've been in college, I still live at home, and I do not drive. All those things are obstacles when it comes to dating. Good luck!
2006-12-10 08:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol...you know what every girl that i ever loved with all my heart, has broken it..Your heart heals and you try ur best to move on. It not easy and trust me i thought about giving up plenty of time. I guess...i like being in love and i like the feelings. Even tho there is a lot of pain involved in being in a realtionship. But ur going to miss out on the best parts of love and being in a realtionship. I know i been effected with all the heart broken, i am little more careful and worried a lot too, but being single is not bad, but i say stay away from realtionship and when ur ready, go back ..take ur time and make sure ur ready
2006-12-10 17:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by aznromeo4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless you like cats, lots of cats, and don't like to have sex, and you are straight, the only option is dating men. This is the conclusion I have come to.
How ever much I do like cats, I'm not quite ready to be a cat lady.
So I'm throwing myself back into the shark pond of dating.
I think this time around, I see things, warning signals, that I did not see before. Like a fellow not phoning to make plans. Right. move on. He's not as into it as I would like, move on.
Take that wisdom that you have gained, and apply it to your new guys. Sit down and think about what a guy did to make you feel bad, and how it led up to that situation. Then when you know what went wrong, you can see things like a lack of respect, a lack of interest, that much earlier in men.
This has already saved me tons of disappoinment.
2006-12-10 17:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give up just take a brake 4 a bit! Not all guys are the same and not all of them r heart breakers! I know how u feel I hope I helped good luck xoxo
2006-12-10 17:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you have not dated the whole population of men your age yet. I say keep trying and try not to rush into anything to serious. just date and have fun, then when a guy comes up to you and says that he is looking for a relationship and want a future, then go for it. But don't fall head over heels. Just have fun.
2006-12-10 16:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Renita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you get too close too fast? Too intimate too fast?
Do you know yourself well enough to define clearly cut boundaries and have the confidence to not allow the man to cross them? You know when he crosses them, you feel pissed off at him or hurt.
Women allow men to break their hearts. Women overthink everything and drive themselves nuts wondering what he is thinking or doing. Stop. Lead your own life and the right one will all of a sudden appear. Focus on yourself. The men you get involved with can see you are an easy target. The reasaon they keep breaking your heart is b/c you get too close too fast and you are desperate for a relationship. They can sense it. They take what they can get and you allow it. When they are done, they leave.
You need to stop chasing after them. You need to focus on yourself and be happy with yourself. When you do meet a man - it is business as usual. Change nothing for him, not you or your routine. He will either fit in with your life or fall out. You need to be in charge of you. Not all men are the same at all. It sounds like you are the same as other women where you have allowed this behavior to repeat itself over and over. You will continue to "have your heart broken" as long as you allow it. Only you can contol this and only you can face yourself and change what you need to change.
Get tough and get over it. Men like a challenge, a fun, upbeat, sexy person. Be attractive, not clingy.
2006-12-10 17:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by kryptychyck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what u mean..but you have to keep trying because there's someone out there how need you and wants to give you all the love and attention you deserve..don't give up just try to make sure the guy is really worth it before you start sharing with him..be a little more careful.and patience...mr right will come...good luck
2006-12-10 16:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by deedee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing the same in all the relationships is you. the only thing you can change is you. you are picking these guys on purpose it may be unintentional but when did one of your parents leave or what were they on. someone hurt you a long long time ago and if you dont seek help now you will continue to repeat this pattern over and over.
2006-12-10 16:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have faith in yourself..Learn from the other broken hearts rather than dwell on it..The lesson's you take from them can give you strength! Look at the good from those relationships, it can give you a good idea what you are looking for in future realtionships! GL
2006-12-10 16:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Peanut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking. Stop thinking about it. It never happens when ou're expecting it. Then, all of a sudden, you'll be desired by someone and you won't really care that much or let yourself get too attached.
Kind of cold, but it keeps your heart protected.
2006-12-10 16:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by Jax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋