does any one have a problem some what like this.. and what should I do or say?

Question

Ok me and my bf have been together for 6 years we have one son and one on the way.His parents in my opinion have their prioritys screwd up(been gettin hi with there son's since they have been 14 and says its okay) well any ways they have done so much to me and my son that I shouldnt of let them see him again (called 241kids on me and there son made false statments) thats all done with but they live 10mins away neither come see our son unless we ask when they are goin to come see him.. they never call ,but it upsets me cuz the mother watches her other grandchild (1st gdaughter 3months old) does everything but doesnt even bother to see how our son is and my bf doesnt want to start an argument so he stays quiet.they didnt evn come to his 1st bday.And he was jus sick 2wks ago in the hospital they didnt come up or call.. Instaed when I brought him home they wanted me to bring him 2 their house while it was freezin out and he was still sick.what should I say or do?

Thanks.Thats what I was thinking of doing.. but this is what happens when I dont ask them and they dnt come around..when they actually feel like seeing him even if its a month later and I dnt let em they threatin to go get vistitations.. thats the hole reason they called 241kids cuz i stop them from coming around my son while bein high and always wanting to borrow money.l

Answer 1

I think that you should tell them that if they didn't care enough to go see him when he was in the hospital then you aren't going to bring him so they can see him now. If they are mean to you like when they called 241kids on you then the obvious and smartest thing to do is pretty much cut them out of your life until they make the decision to straighten out. Hope I helped!

Answer 2

First, let them threaten all they want to. They would have to go to the courts to do such, and the courts would really love to know about their pastime activities. With that info, the most they might get would be supervised visitations to ensure they dont enjoy themselves around your son. Also theres no telling how much more the courts could get involved with their drug habits so let them threaten, and you can tell them this too. 2nd its your son and if they feel theyre too good to be involved with the little boys life, then to hell with them. They obviousily know where you live and choose not to come over for whatever reason so you or your son dont need them. Maybe its because the two of you arent married and they arent going to accept you or your son as actual family thus the reason they dont want anything to do with you or him. Revolve your lives around the 3 of you and forget everyone else especially if they want to act this way. There is no reason for letting druggie adults around your family to begin with. Just as long as you havent shut the welcome door in their face, then you have done absolutely nothing wrong to deserve this treatment from them. Good luck

Answer 3

My EX-inlaws were the same way but ya know what... when I quit trying and moved on they eventually disappeared (that's right, they don't care my kids even exsist). I know you may think, "But my kid should know them". NOT IF THEY ARE IDIOTS!! Trust me you'll feel better when YOU feel in control & ya know what... you are!!!
My kids are great and I'm so happy my ex and his family didn't have any influence on them. And trust me... kids catch the vibes, and the older they get, the more they see the more they will love you for taking a stand!

Answer 4

Your childs welfare comes first and they should realise that he is sick and that u r not taking him out in the cold but your quit welcome to come over to see him. Too bad if they dont like it

Answer 5

as long as they get n stoned dont let em around the child, if they got high with their childern, what makes you think they wont get grandchildern high too?

Answer 6

Why would you take them to see potheads anyway?