Serious advice on depression please?

Question

I am severly depressed,i feel so selfish as i feel the best way out is the easy way out but i have everything to live for i am not aggresive in anyway or form i do not lash out i just get really down on myself and sit and cry uncontrolably in a corner,i do not sleep at nights i have not felt myself for months confused convincing myself that i do not love anyone yet deep down i know i do,i am still considerate towards friends and family and i am just able to look after my little girl although i just cope threw the day until my boyfriend comes home i have a fantastic family fantastic boyfriend and a more than fantastic daughter of 2.Please someone tell me i can come threw this i have changed my diet to a very healthy diet and i do bits of excersising althow it is a big massive effort i try to think positive but my head feels tense all the time please someone tell me i can come threw this i am desprete please.

Answer 1

I suffer from depression also (some 20 years).
I am slowly beating it. Though it may well be much shorter for you. Depression needs to be treated by a professional. My best advice is to get good regular sleep, stay away from alchohol and drugs, and get some pressional help.

You can mail me on [e-mail] if you need to

Answer 2

First, you can come out of the depression, but it sounds like you'll need help from a doctor. I resisted seeing a doctor when I was depressed, but I was so glad I finally did. Anti-depressants can be a life saver. I was put on Effexor XR, which worked for me. I wrote my doctor a thank you card because it seemed to have changed my life so much for the better. When you're depressed you can feel selfish and really get down on yourself. It's a horrible feeling without adding guilt for feeling this way. My neice, who is at Princton, is beautiful, has a wonderful family, she's very intelligent, but she has no self worth and terribly depressed. She was tested and they learned that she was actually lacking a certain enzyme that caused her depression. She'll have to take medication all her life because that enzyme needs to be replaced. You could have something organic going on that needs to be addressed. Please see a doctor or a psychiatrist, who is the best for prescribing anti-depressants because they keep up with the lastest, and best treatments. It could change your life! You sound like me a few years ago. I didn't have the strength or will to even talk on the phone. It won't go away by itself, simply because it doesn't seem like there's a particular situation that is the cause of the depression. Make an appointment Monday to see someone. You'll be able to enjoy your wonderful daughter, boy friend, and all the other beautiful things that life offers you once you can over-come this, but I don't think you can do it by yourself. I wish you a happy and fun holiday; make that phone call to get help! I promise you won't regret it.

Answer 3

listen to me very carefully. ive dealt with severe depression throughout my childhood. It is not your fault or anybody elses. It is a real medical condition. I thought i would grow out of it but never did. Depression is progressive. You need to take medication. I had to take time off school for this. I have been taking paxil for 2 or 3 months and have felt like i never did before. I am a new better person. I went exactly what youre going through and honestly even worse, but guess what i am now okay. You need to go to your doctor and have him prescribe an antidepressant. I think the lowest doseage will work for you. You feel the full affects in 2 to 3 weeks. Do not delay though or hope for a better tomorrow because you need this treatment. I have full faith that you will be okay. I know for a fact that I was at the lowest of the low and i came back even better. If you want any advice or some encouragement you can email me. Hang in there. God loves you and so do your loved ones.

Answer 4

Honey, just by posting this you've admitted one really important thing, and that's that you know the depression isn't really you.

You can still see the real world, and know you have a lot to be thankful for. Just being able to see this, no matter that you don't feel it helps, is a HUGE step towards coming out of this.

You really do need to talk to a professional about this. To me it sounds like you have post-natal depression, but whatever form of depression you have it sounds like now is the time to get things sorted out and star your fight back.

Talk to Sane http://www.sane.org.uk/ or call 0845 767 8000

They are completely confidential and non judgement, but they will try to advise you on how and where to go for help, and what kind of help is best for you.

1 in 3 of us suffer from clinical depression at some point. You are not alone in your feelings.

I wish you all the happiness in the world x

Answer 5

I suffer from very serious depression and people spend ages preaching to you about what you should and should do. I'd say the first step is to contact your GP, if you havent already. Be firm and honest with them. They may suggest anti depressants, dont feel ashamed to take them, they are no miracle cure, but they help. Also seek couselling you can do this through your GP. Massage may be an alternative for your tension. Try and spend some time doing sometihng you enjoy. Its important that you do seek profeesional help, be persistant, there will be something out there to help you. I dont know if you find your boyfriend approachable, but if you do have a chat with him and make him aware.
Put yourself first and seek some help, keep fighting you will get there in the end xx

Answer 6

The changes in diet and exercise are a great start. The "not aggressive in any way" statement lead me to wonder about how much you stick up for yourself. Not sticking up for yourself and insisting on what you need can lead to resentment, self loathing, etc. This can fuel depression. It may be that you have something wrong with you physically and no matter how you change your thinking or behavior it will not help much. Either way it would be good to talk to your doctor, make sure there is not an explanation like thyroid disorder or something else, then talk about trying anti-depressants if nothing else works. But talking to your doc is the first step. Talk therapy is a good idea either way as well.

Answer 7

Have you seen a psychiatrist? You should. Depression can be treated with medication and therapy. You say that you have everything going for you, so your depression is not situational. That generally means that you have a chemical imbalance in your brain and need medication to correct it. Some times it takes a few tries to get the right medications since treating depression is not an exact science yet. Start by seeing your doctor and get a referal to a psychiatrist if your doctor cannot help you.

Answer 8

Yesterday I had depression so strong my pills wouldn't help, but I did something new: I let it be. It went away...

You must know, depression is a natural process to heal but it can get out of control. There are pills which help with that. But depression should be welcomed in small amounts, as it was in the past... as a way to slow down, figure things out, and depression carves out in us a place for wisdom to fill.

WARNING: If you resist feeling your depression, the same parts of you which feel joy are being denied and will not work as well since you're denying depression.

Answer 9

It doesn't sound like you have manic depression which is one of the worst but that doesn't mean your not depressed in any way. The only option really, since you've been feeling like this for months is to see your GP as any form of feeling like you have described will be classed as depression and so you obviously need help, which unfortunately you probably wont get from here apart from our suggestions.
It is classed as an illness so the best thing you can do (tomorrow!) is to give your GP a call and he will do what he thinks is right for yourself.

Answer 10

Have you spoken to your partner about the way your feeling, or a family member......

How your feeling couldn't be connected to the birth of your babe, post natel depression because that can go on for years untreated.........

Speak to your doctor, your little girl see's you as a wonderful mum, please don't do anything serious, can you imagine your baby having to deal with her mum gone all her life.....

Please seek professional help, we all get down from time to time but this seems deeper, I was down at one stage and couldn't sleep etc cried all the time and spoke to a counsellor, he warned me that storing up feelings when someone annoys you etc just comes out in others ways ie depression ..

He said if something happens that's causes frustration deal with it, you mention that you are not aggressive or lash out but sometimes it does you good ......even if its screaming into a pillow.......

I really wish I could help you, I am sure your a great person, but go to your doctor it will help

Good luck xxxxxxxxx