So I dated this guy for 7 months. but we were still into each other and talking for over a year. i fell in love with him but he has told me he didnt love me. he got a new girlfriend now and they have been dating for about 2 months. however, he says he loves HER but he has cheated on her twice already, with me. Does he really love her? He flirts with me everyday to this day even and gets mad if I don't flirt back. But, he loves HER. Do you think he does? help. confused.
2006-12-10 08:27:48 · 8 answers · asked by luv2dance 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's just playing the field. Only date a player if you want to be played. Imagine how many other girls may be involved with him, if he is so willing to cheat on someone he admits to "love".
There is dating and then there is the "game" of dating. Real dating has you and he getting to know one another and slowly allowing one another to grow closer. If the relationship is sound, as you grow closer, a love forms. If not, you part ways and move on. The "game" of dating is just manipulation and lies. Men learn what to do and say to get women to trust them, open up to them and ultimately sleep with them. Women learn what to do and say to attract a man and pull him in for what she wants, which is more times than not, intimacy (which translates incorrectly all too often to sex). These men and women learn repeatable steps and become very competiant at what they do, but for all the "fun" they get out of it, it leaves them hollow.
Let this guy go, unless you really want to be hurt. He obviously has his own interest in mind and very little of yours. After all, it took him saying "i love you" to the new girl to get in good with her, whereas you didn't take quite that much effort.
2006-12-10 08:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by guardian707 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy really did love a girl he wouldn't be cheating on her! I don't think he loves her or you. He is just using you in my opinion I don't think he is taking relationships seriously he is just playing with every girl he has a chance to play with. You should stay away from him and I know it's not easy, but try to forgot he even exists. Keep looking I'm sure you'll find that special someone some day you just need to be patient.
2006-12-10 16:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Chicana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he's an idiot (quite likely) or he doesn't love either one of you and just wants what he can get from you all. I recommend you give up on him. If he would cheat on his girlfriend with you, why wouldn't he cheat on you if you were his girlfriend? He has a lot of growing up to do. Good luck!
2006-12-10 16:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is trying to get you jealous! but if you think about it how do you know he wasnt cheating on you when you were going out? maybe you should let him alone because imagine if that girl found out how bad she would feel?@! there are other guys out there and i wouldnt want to date someone if they cheated on someone before how would you know that they wont do it again and how can you trust them?
2006-12-10 16:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither, he loves neither of you. If you are comfortable using him in that manner, go right ahead, but if you feel like your feelings are involved, run.
2006-12-10 16:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't love her and he doesn't love you. infact he doesn't even know the meaning of the word love. he just uses the word love to make girls happy. you should stay away from him, hes just going to break your heart.
2006-12-10 16:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
He's using her! And Maybe even you.
Emotions suck, sometimes you must face logic.
Goodluck, and best of wishes!
2006-12-10 16:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loved her he would not be cheating with you so you dont have to worry about him loving her if he keeps fliting and cheating with you
2006-12-10 16:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by falawoods 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋