I'm pregnant and i'm a teen. Nobody knows but me and a doctor. What should I do now?

Question

I want my parent and family members to know, but I don't want to see their reaction. I want to tell my friends but I'm afraid their goingto think differntly about me because I'm going to be a mom. I'm also scared about the symtoms and labor to go through. Since I have no husband, I will not have someone by my side like regular mothers-to-be. I'm just really terrified and in need of help. I'm already 3 monthes pregnant but nobody notices. They just suspect that i need to excersice more...

Answer 1

I hate to tell you this, but they will eventually find out when you're running to the bathroom with morning sickness and your belly begins to bulge. It will suck, but you need to fess up to them. At first they will probably not be too happy (understandable), but later they will be supportive of you. You want them to support you, right, so you need to come clean with them. I'm not going to preach at you other than that. You need your family by your side right now.

Answer 2

I was a teen mother as well. I am 24 years old, and I have a little boy that will be 8 in May. I was terrified to tell my Mom too. She told me once, that if something like that happened, she wouldn't be mad, but she would be very disappointed. Mom lied. My mother was very angry with me, and was for long while. I don't tell you this, to scare you. I'm telling you because I could NOT have done it without her. She stood behind me the entire way. There were times she made me cry, there were times that we cried together.

You mother loves you. She'll be there for you. Yes, she'll be upset, her little girl made a bad decision and changed her life forever. Tell her now, you're going to need her. She deserves to know. Think how she'll feel if she only has a matter of weeks to get used to the idea of being a grandma.

You're going to be forced to grow up now. I know it's scary, but it's time to do the right think now. The right thing for your baby, is to have a Mom with a support system. I've heard said that teen Mom's have ruined their lives. I do NOT believe that. However, you do have a long difficult road ahead. It will help to have someone with some navigational skills in the passnger seat.

Good luck and take care of yourself and that baby. I know you'll do what's right for the two of you.

And if it's any consolation, I married a man in the Army, he's currently deployed and I'm chasing my 7 year old, a 3 year old, and a pair of 18 month old twins around, all by MYself. You can do it, I promise!

Answer 3

Well i am a teen mom. The first thing to do it tell your parents maybe your mom if you are closer with her. Another thing dont worry what your friends think if they do think different of you they werent your true friends now were they. Just take things one day at a time. BUT your parents do need to know. Make sure you go to all your appointments and take your prenatals! Things will get better once everyone knows that is/was the hardest thing. Get on WIC so you can get started with some things. You need to tell the baby's daddy and start filing for child support. BUT another thing you must finish school!!MUST!! and Labor dont worry it will come nothing you can do about it and honestly getting a tat hurt worse than having a baby.but get an Epidural FOR SURE! Yes it is stressful at time having a baby my husband is in the USAF so he is away and was away when i had our daughter. So it is hard but you can do it. Just pray you get an easy baby like what i was blessed with. BUT dont stress things will get better i promise. Atleast you are keeping your baby and that is the right thing to do. BUT just tell your parents. They will soon come around if they dont right away and they will help out alot. GOOD LUCK and i hope this helps!

Answer 4

I guess the question is, what do you want to do? Do you want to keep the baby and raise it? Do you want to give it up for adoption? If you keep the baby are you going to be willing to sit home and care for baby on Friday and Saturday nights while your friends go out and have a good time? If you tell mom and dad about the baby, are they going to be willing to help you care for the baby financially? You don't say how old you are. If you are younger and living at home, will mom and dad be willing to keep the baby in the house? You do need to tell mom and dad, as you are really going to need their help through out your pregnancy. They will be very angry and then very sad and then probably pretty happy to be grandma and grandpa, but they have to go through the stages of anger, sadness, denial, etc. before that happens. I hope you have a good, loving family that will rally around you and help you out.

Answer 5

Believe it or not, most parents are much more capable of handling these things than kids think. You are going to need lots of support and you DEFINITELY need to know you are not alone.

There is probably a Pregnancy Center in your area that can provide you with the moral support you are going to need as you go through this. These centers are fantastic for helping girls just like you to get their feet under them in a very challenging time.

Believe in yourself, believe in your loved ones. You are doing a FABULOUS thing in having this baby. Bringing a new life into the world is something to celebrate and it's such a privilege to be a part of this experience - for you and for those around you. Hang in there.

You can probably find a pregnancy center in your area at this link:

http://www.pregnancycenters.org/

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

i was 16 when i got pregnant and i now have a 1 month old daughter. my famlies reaction was to cry their eyes out but it did get better. within a month they were very excited and supportive about the new arrival. i am now 17 and i am continuing with school and i have applied to colleges so you can do it you just have to step it up and try harder. don't drop out because that's when people will get mean and say that you failed because of that child. i love my daughter to death and i wouldn't trade her for the world. being pregnant is a beautiful thing and you will adore that baby to death but you have to get the pregnancy off your chest and tell your family. after everything calms down you will feel so much better that you got that off your chest and then you can start planning for your bundle of joy. im not going to tell you it is easy but it is a very enjoyable timme in my life and i hope that you make the right decisions so that it will be for you also....congratulations on your baby and i wish you the best of luck

Answer 7

First of all, breathe, it's ok just breathe. Your going to have to tell your family and friends soon. I woould recommend telling your parent(s) first. It's going to be scarey but it will be ok. Just tell them, fast...like pulling off a band-aid. I know that may sound stupid but if you tell them quickly they want have time to react. It will also lift the heavy weight off your shoulders. Start off by tell them your game plan.
Example,

I'm going to get a job (if you don't have one)
Tell them that you will get the babies daddy involved (this is important)

You need to talk to the babies daddy and explain to him how both of you are going to have to grow up. As far as being scared about giving birth. Talk to your mom or aunt, sister.... someone who's had a baby. Ask them if they can be there to support you.

Answer 8

303.295.2288 or 1.800.395.HELP is the number for Alternatives pregnancy center. They should be able to help you get started in your decision making and give you ideas on how to approach the subject with your loved ones. http://www.apcdenver.org/index.html

I'm proud of you for wanting to keep your child alive instead of killing her for coming in your way. You are a mother now. Be the best mother you can be!

Chances are, your parents will be angry, shocked, and hurt, but they will need to know so that they can help you. They can be your biggest allies, once they deal with their shock. Give them time, and try not to escalate the problem. My guess is that it would be best to tell your parent with whom you have the best relationship first. It may hurt them the most, but that cannot be helped at this point. Remember they will always love you no matter what.

I understand your fear of going through this alone. I have a husband who loves me and supports me, yet it is a hard and sometimes very stressful job, even though it is the most worthwhile job in the universe.

Please know that God loves you and He wants to give you His best for you. You will never be alone. He says he is the father to the fatherless. If you do not have a relationship with Him, seek Him. He has written you a love letter called the Bible. In it He says that all have sinned and fallen short of His glory (Romans 3:23). The wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord (Romans 6:23) Repent and believe on the Lord Jesus and you will be saved. Your local Bible believing church is a great place to learn more about your Creator who loves you and wants to care for you. He will not make you come to Him. He is not a cruel dictator. Instead He is waiting patiently (how incredibly patiently) for you to come to Him. It is your choice. Choose Him, His way, with the consequence of becoming His adopted child throughout eternity, or choose your own way with the consequence of not being able to change your mind after you die (until then you can choose Him), and ending up without Him and any of His grace and presence.

Answer 9

Tell your family....their reaction may be better than expected. So many mothers go through labor & delivery....it's not as bad as you think....If it was, women wouldn't keep having babies!! Tell your friends...if they look at you differently, they weren't really your friends to begin with. You don't need a man to help you get through it...friends & family I'm sure will be a great support group!

Answer 10

It happen to me many years ago. When if u got pregnant u were a bad girl.My parents still loved me and where just upset because of the hard road that I would have ahead of me.So u need to tell them so they can help u.They will still love u.You are their daughter.Good luck hon..Please let me say this.If u want a abortion then don't let anyone change your mind.You do want u think is right for u.