This guy knows how you feel and says he feels the same way. Yet, you know in your heart hes only telling you this to keep you around for sex. If you know this yet keep going around him because you love him so much and dont know how to be with out him what do you do. To get over him I mean because I tried and tried to get over him and can't. Plus theres this other guy that does really love me but I can't seem to give my heart to him because I love this other guy so much. What do I do?
2006-12-10 08:20:27 · 13 answers · asked by mystical 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if I really loved him I'd sleep with him in every position imaginable
2006-12-10 08:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're damned if you do and damned if you don't.
My best advice is to break up with the guy that you really like, (the one that is keeping you around for sex), unless that is all that you want from him. In the long run, he will probably leave you for somebody else that will give him sex.
The person that really loves you would be a good option, but if you don't love him, then it would be a loveless relationship. Maybe this person would be willing to let you stay with him after the breakup until you get on your feet as long as you tell him that you don't want to get anything started. If after a few weeks, you figure out that you like this guy, then there is always room to grow.
Good luck, but leave this first guy.
2006-12-10 08:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Joel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree love is a decision, not a feeling. If you are infatuated with this Guy #1, then it will indeed pass. Dont go crawling to Guy #2 because you would just be treating him like you are being treated. Have yourself some good ol fashined goodbye sex and move on hun. Nothing like getting together with your girls and forgetting the guys for a week or two
2006-12-10 08:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by abbienikol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably only love this guy because of the person he was or pretended to be when you first got together. Now that you see him for who he really is, instead of holding onto feelings of a person that doesn't exist, move on. You'll be happier and more sane for it. Don't expect him to come back around and be loving toward you just because you love him so much. He obviously dgaf.
2006-12-10 08:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are choosing to stay in a relationship that you know has no future. You either decide you want more, and get out, or stay and no complaints.
My question to you is, why are you wasting time and emotion on something that's going nowhere, even if there weren't another guy waiting in the wings? Why are you wasting love on someone who you claim is just using you? I'd be angry with him...not in love with him.
2006-12-10 08:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can be really manipulative and game-playing. They get away with it cos we dont really believe they are capable of it, and cos we want to believe all the nice things they say about us and our relationship with them.
Be strong, make the decision to leave the guy who is using you. Sometime down the line someting will happen, eg he meets someone he really loves, and you will be dropped like a hot potato. How hurt will you feel then? Stop wasting your life on a LOSER! x
2006-12-10 08:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i cant answer from your perspective, but if i were stuck in between 2 women, i cant honestly say i'd know what to do or how to react, but i think you need to break free of the guy that is trying to keep you around for pleasure, if thats all he's after you'd be better off with option 2.....nothing hurts worse than knowing the person you care about is just playing games and using you, you can do better than that and deserve better than that....but thats just my view on it, and in the grand scheme of the world, my view is rather insignificant when mixed with the opinions and views of the other 6 billion people on this rock
2006-12-10 08:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by do_sctc145 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell him that you can't speak to him anymore, and stick to it no matter what. You're basically saying its ok to take advantage of you because of the feelings you have for him, and that's not fair at all. You shouldn't degrade yourself like that. As much as it hurts to let go you have to say good-bye and don't turn back!
2006-12-10 08:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your choices are to remain a slave to this one you love forever while he is probably doing other women too (make sure you get tested for HIV several times a year) or find someone who respects you and loves you.
2006-12-10 08:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say you love him but he keep you around for sex ,its sound like your selling yourself short ,dump his *** and find a new boy friend, how old are you
2006-12-10 08:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind and be happy with the choice you made
2006-12-10 08:22:51 · answer #11 · answered by spanky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋