I can't believe that I'm saying this. I'm not a teenager. I would have never asked this a month ago. I've had infatuations before, of-course, but I could handle them and I've always been very practical about relationships. Moreover, I've been very, very happy single (I have no shortage of amazing men wanting a relationship with me, but I just couldn't prioritize one).
Now I'm floored. By a stranger. No, he doesn't fit my physical "ideal." In fact, for the first two or three weeks of my heart-pounding infatuation with him, I didn't even know what he looked like, because I have poor eyesight and I couldn't bring myself to look directly at him (yet I knew that no matter what he looked like, he'd be beautiful to me). Moreover, the first time I remember noticing him was when he was behind me. I heard the door open from behind and my heart leapt into my throat. I turned around and there he was.
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2006-12-10 08:11:46 · 6 answers · asked by solaralley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My friends, who thought of me as a confident, independent woman are shocked and disappointed with how weak-kneed I've become about a perfect stranger. I didn't know anything about him for some time, but I now know that he's passionate about the precise things that I am. Then, I came to realize that this stranger is floored by me, too. I've overheard conversations, and friends report he can't take his eyes off of me. This has lasted for quite some time and neither of us has managed to approach the other, though I want to and I know that he does, too. Tomorrow.
I wish I could stop thinking about him. I need to concentrate. But I can't stop thinking about him- God, this is utterly bizarre!!!
2006-12-10 08:12:15 · update #1
I know this bubble could burst. I still have that practical girl somewhere inside me. I know how stupid it all sounds. I almost want it to, so I could focus on my goals (again, something I never had a problem with, before) and stop feeling so completely silly! But- of-course I want it to work out, to prove itself substantial, because- well it's obvious. For a girl who never really believed in love, I'm floating on this infatuation.
I'm hoping that by getting this out, as I'm too shy to speak of it elsewhere, I can better concentrate on my work. This whole experience is eating me away.
2006-12-10 08:12:31 · update #2
I had the same issue when I started dating my fiance. I had no intentions of a serious relationship and now...well you get the idea. I guess what I am getting at is let your feelings guide you. If they are really that strong for this man, then why fight it? Let this work itself out, especially if he feels the same. You two could have an absolutely amazing relationship if things are like this already.
2006-12-10 08:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. i gotta say if you all did get together it would be one heck of a story to tell..
To me it sounds like youre both extremely attracted to each other. I know you said that you found out that he is interested in some of the things you are.. but theres only one way to find out.. like have you ever been told theres this movie thats amazing and you went to see it and thought it was just okay.. sometimes going by what other people say can mis-lead your own opinon... other than that it sounds pretty cool!! I know that feeling though... When i was a waitress one time, I locked eyes with this guy and it was like in that moment i seen our future... it was definitley strange but infortunatley we never got involved i guess my suggestion is dont let it pass you by... cuz youll wonder for the rest of your life!! Good Luck!
2006-12-10 08:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him. What do have to lose if you've heard that he can't take his eyes off you either, there's obviously a chemistry between you two and you'll never know until you speak up. Sounds exciting, and this could be something great and you won't know until you try! :)
2006-12-10 08:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok that's humorous because of the fact a pair years in the past i had the same concern! there became into this guy and he appeared suited, like yours, and that i assumed i enjoyed him, i enjoyed the belief human beings at the same time, while he talked to me, each thing. He dated my terrific chum at one element and that i became into sooo upset purely such as you. And he broke up together with her supposedly for me, and that i assumed you recognize what? that may not properly worth my time, i need to be with somebody who rather loves me somewhat of waiting for him to end messing around. as quickly as we hit extreme college issues replaced we've been acquaintances yet we did not communicate as lots so i wasn't tempted. and you recognize what? My existence is a lot greater helpful, actual, im not unhappy over him continuously, and now a junior in extreme college and have the terrific boyfriend i ought to ask for and im chuffed with out him. So in case you prefer to stay acquaintances with him that's super yet cut back the quantity of time you spend conversing to him and await the dazzling guy, have confidence me he will come, and you'd be so chuffed while he does :) wish i helped!
2016-10-18 01:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sighs...damn, you have got to get over this shyness and tell him how you feel. Why not ask him out? Sounds like love to me.
2006-12-10 08:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Diabla 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HIM OUT! u guys r perfect for each other! i only the guy i loved would do that for me too
2006-12-10 08:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋