im absolutley crushed..my boyfriend of a couple months just dumped me out of nowhere, for not really any good reason, yesterday. im extra hurt because i lost my virginity to him because i thought i could trust him..and last week, he told me he loved me..and a couple days ago he did..then yesterday he just DUMPED ME...said "were different people". I dont understand where i went wrong and im having a lot of trouble. im so heartbroken! help..maybe some comforting words, stories, advice? anything to move past this..thanks. :(
2006-12-10 07:58:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh hunny i am so sorry. Its hard enought 2 be dumped by a guy out of the blue and then to top it off he happens to be the first person you slept with. i am kind of going thru the same thing. you did nothing wrong. Its going to take awhile, but i promise you that you are going to be fine. do what you have to do, cry, talk to friends, ect. just know that you are worth something and deserve better.
2006-12-10 08:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Monica Baby, I'm so sorry you have been hurt. It's no fun to have this happen, and I do feel badly for you that you are going through this.
Now...time to think: are you going to be a sad little girl, or are you going to pick yourself up and move on? Don't let ANYONE outside your family see you crying over this guy. He is not worth your tears and you must not lose your self respect by letting him, or anyone else, know how much he hurt you.
Learn from this experience, though:
A. You did not have a committed relationship, even though you thought you did. It is too soon in your life to find a relationship that will last "forever."
B. No bf of a "couple of months" is worth you having sex.
C. He told you he loved you right up until the end because he "loved" having sex with you. He did not love YOU. Most boys at this stage in life are not emotionally equipped to think of much more than getting what they want sexually. They do not have the emotional depth to keep a relationship going for long. They are too busy wondering what sex with the next girl will be like. It has NOTHING to do with YOU, and EVERYTHING to do with HIM.
D. You failed at nothing, but you trusted the wrong person with a very precious gift. You must keep in mind at all times what you are worth. Remember that the Bible says that you are "WONDERFULLY made." There is not another person on the planet like little old YOU.
Now, play HAPPY songs on your CD player, get into some exercising, go shopping with your Mom, tease your brother, tell you Dad that you REALLY appreciate him, and call your bff and plan a sleep over to talk. Don't share much more with anyone else other than he was a big disappointment to you. Let them guess why. Don't sit still and mope...won't help you feel better.
Hugs, Hon, hope you keep this in mind and enjoy the future bfs more...without the confusion of sex. It's not time, yet.
:)
2006-12-10 08:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oooh... srry to say, but it sounds like you were used
some boys r effin pricks and it sounds like u fell in love with one, talk to your friends about it they'll help you feel better
or tell your mama talkin to her can be one of the best conversations in the world if you just let her know how your feeling at the moment, sure she migth be a lil mad that your havin sex but she'll realise that how your feeling is more important than that
and i hope you used a condom cause from what your saying you sound kind of young, and if you didnt get checked out
2006-12-10 08:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by ɷ▫▪вяøκeи;;♥ иøт đefeαтeđ▪▫ɷ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got seen this previously. a chum of mine gave her boyfriend a handjob (she replaced into 14 or 15 on the time), and he dumped her 2 weeks later. it incredibly is ultimate to maintain the pants each of ways on until he drops the L-bomb and you're particular that he skill it. For now, remind your self which you do no longer opt for him and you under no circumstances have. you would be able to make it on your guy or woman.
2016-10-05 03:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey but some guys are just like that you give em what they want and there gone to find someone else its just some guys nature and i'm really sorry for your loss
2006-12-10 08:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lovin life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how old you and him are, if you guys are young, then he just wants to meet different people and be a player. all i can say is try giving him a call and asking him why you guys broke up, or maybe even talking to his friends? if that doenst work, forget the guy, theres more interesting to do and more guys to date.
2006-12-10 08:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋