I'm a christian and when I'm at my in laws (don't go to church) they blaspheme but i don't know

Question

how to ask them not to with out offending them.it really upsets me. my hubby won't say anything cause he does'nt want to offend them any ideas. Please give me helpful answers not abuse thanks

i don't want my daughter to hear it and won't be able to take her round and don't want it to came to that

i really don't belive how nasty you are all being

Answer 1

If you do not like their speech, refrain to go and visit them; when they ask why you won’t go, mildly but firmly explain them your reason.
Colossians 4:6. Let YOUR utterance be always with graciousness, seasoned with salt, so as to know how YOU ought to give an answer to each one.

This is a good reason: “Though swearing may seem to relieve their feelings, many discover that profanity breeds profanity”.

“The tongue that speaks evil will be stopped,” warned wise King Solomon. So do not allow the dirt of profanity to soil your speech. Instead, aim to be a person who knows the clean thing to say and who says it graciously!—Proverbs 10:31, 32, Today’s English Version;

Answer 2

To be honest, one of the worst things you could do in this situation is stop taking your daughter round because of this issue. She is likely to hear far worse, far more descriptive language in the playground and you wouldn't stop her from going to school would you?

Your in-laws aren't meaning to offend you, it's just the way that they talk and probrably don't know the effect that it has on you.
But maybe you need to sit down and figure out why you have such a problem with it. Jesus loves them exactly the way they are, even if they do blaspheme.

If you carry on feeling like this then the problem will only get worse because you'll get more upset, you'll start thinking silly thoughts like not letting your daughter see them because of it, you'll start getting upset with your husband because he's not backing you up and more than likely, your in-laws will be totally oblivious of how you're feeling.

My advice would be to love them unconditionally and show your daughter a fantastic example of the kind of love that Jesus has for people. Find blessings in the fact that you have a lovely family around you and don't worry about what they're not saying right and enjoy them while you can.

Answer 3

You really have a difficult situation they probably know your views through your husband so they will be doing the blaspheme thing to show off and wind you up I'm afraid especially with the child who will see this as normal then copy and grow up to be like the rest of the idiots out there who don't take decent life seriously you won't change them so the choices are don't go round make it clear to your husband why or accept there behaviour if they want to see there grandchild they come to yours then they must respect your house rules or you make them unwelcome like you say there really is not an easy way but stick to your life code bring your child up to be a responsible member of society and maybe a few out there will take the hint

Answer 4

You have to make a choice. Is it O.K. for them to offend God? If you do not say something you are putting their feelings above God. You are condoning their Blasphemy by not saying anything. Just continually leave the room right away when they do that. After awhile they will ask what's up? and you can tell them when they do that it makes you physically ill because you worry for their salvation. Sometimes you MUST take a stand. Some people may not even realize that they are doing that.

Answer 5

I don't know what you mean specifically. Do you mean cussing? or, saying things about God that are not true to you? or what? I can understand that it would upset you. I also understand why you would want to protect your child. That is your job as a parent.

First, be strong. Stand strong in your faith and pray before you go to their house. Do not dissallow your child to see your in-laws because regardless of who they are, that little precious child is still their grandbaby. Don't deny your child the relationship.

Second, treat them with kindness no matter what! But, realize your limits. I have many relatives that are racist. I can only be around them for so long. Don't get angry and lose your cool. If you need to walk off for a bit, then do it.

Third, Talk to your child! Make sure that your little one realizes that they are acting in a way that hurts you and that isn't a good thing. Make sure that your little one understands to treat them with love and kindness as well. Children may get the idea that if someone is doing something bad, then they should treat them badly. That is classic-child-like logic. Make sure that doesn't happen.

Lastly, talk to them. But, pick your battles. If there is one word you don't like, ask them kindly not to say it around you personally or maybe not around the kid. Or, see if they can tone it down just around the kid. Make a compromise but don't compromise your faith. Realize they aren't like you and love them anyway. Make sure that they know that when you are talking to them.

If you need to talk, you can email me.

Amanda
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Answer 6

You should be able to tell them that you dislike the way that they are with out offending them. It is their decision if they are going to quit. If they feel that they have a right to blasheme the lord in their own home and you do not agree with how they are doing (even after you had ask them kindly if they would not) then you should not go to visit with them any more. And if they come to your home and feel that they can do the same as when they are in their home you should tell them that if they have to speak that way and condemn our lord then they will have to leave.
I wish you the best of luck
God Bless!

Answer 7

What do you mean by blaspheme? Do you mean taking God's name in vain... ? If that's what you mean, I don't think you can really do much about it unless you have kids that you don't want to have hear that language. It's offensive to you, of course it is but you don't want to come across as judgmental. The best thing you can do is to accept them in love and understand that you can't expect Christian behaviour from an unbeliever. To try to impose these standards would just cause hard feelings and drive them farther away from accepting Christ... which is of course what you would hope and pray for.

If they are extremely offensive - specifically if they are always saying "Jesus Christ" or something like that which really hurts you, I would just politely explain that because of your love for Jesus, you really don't like to hear his name used that way, if possible. But don't pursue it too far. If they don't respect your request there isn't much you can do. Like I said, you can't expect unbelievers to act like believers.

Take care!

Answer 8

In situations like this I have found that very small and gentle steps need to be taken. It may take time because darkness does not like light. Be strong in your understanding of God's completeness, and you will find ways of expressing the truth to them without hitting them on the head with a frying pan.
Teach your children the truth and what tolerance is. Everybody will be winners in the end.

Answer 9

Ask them politely not to. Remember that a Christian must love everyone without judging them. Being offended is a form of judgement.

Answer 10

i think that the best way to say something is to just come out and say it but in a loving and understanding method. tell them that you are a christian and that you love God and that you love them, but you feel a buit of pain every time that they take the Lord's name in vain. then ask them if they could kindly stop. if they are offended, simply appologise and try to explain it further. it is better to get issues out into the open then to hold them back and cause more damage in the longrun. and ask God to help you to say the right things. that is thew most important point of all.