Okay, this guy asked me out. I wasn't really friends with him; actually I didn't really even talk to him until he asked me out; but he was really sweet and said he'd been trying to ask me for like 3 years but never had the courage---so I told him yes. It was really nice; but then like and hour after we were dating he told me he loved me and was kissing me; it was really uncomfortable! We went on a walk and out to eat that night and he asked me if I would ever have sex with him; I told him I wasn't really like that and he said he'd wait for me; but then things got akward and we broke up after 2 weeks and now he wants me back. Should I take him back? Do you think he'll try something?
PLEASE HELP ME!!!
2006-12-10 07:43:28 · 21 answers · asked by swimmergirl4@verizon.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Remember this guy has been after you for three years. That is a long time to think and fantasize about someone. He may have fallen in love with the fantasy of you. Who knows? Anyway he sounds like he does not want to lose you. Give him a second chance and lay down the law with him. Explain to him what one day at a time means. (take it slow)
2006-12-10 07:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi
If you thought he is/was sweet then ask him why his acting like this. Be upfront with him.. chances are he never had a gf before you.. ask him what he wants from a relationship. He might be insecure with girls, thats why he didn't ask you out until now, hence the shyness.. OR the reason why he told you he loves you might be bc. he was essentially "with you" for that 3years and sees the progression of "you guys". If you want him back then tell him.. and tell him then why it didnt work the first time (like the stupid things he said/done.. quote it... your controlling the conv. so dont be vague) ... then if you do give him another chance .. show him that you want a relationship not a "ess ee eexx" partner... and if his stupid enough to try something (after all the conv.s) then his not mature enough.
good luck i hope it works out for the best
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2006-12-10 08:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by bob o 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he will. This guy has an unnatural obsession with you.
In my opinion, he has formed a mental picture of you over three years that has nothing to do with reality, who you really are. He can't love you. He has only really known you the two weeks you two were going out. You being uncomfortable was a good and natural reaction to his actions. A relationship with this guy would not be healthy.
My advice is to tell him no and find someone else.
ps tell him not to wait for you either.
2006-12-10 07:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by MST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sugggestion :
dont go for him
he wants to move too fast as it seems
and it also looks like you're not so happy with it
if you really like him, then tell him that you'll go out with him on the condition that you two move slower than before
i dont think he'll try anything necessarly, he just realized what a big mistake he made and wants to make it up to you (is what he would think if he was a nice guy / caring guy)
now the question is: what kind of guy do you think he is ?
2006-12-10 07:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by Nick723 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he figured out that he was moving way too fast. I would expect him to be a perfect gentleman if you take him back. IF not, THEN you can give up on him.
He may also have figured out that the kind of girl that wouldn't sleep with someone she barely knew is the kind he wants. Stick to your values, he'll learn to appreciate them.
2006-12-10 07:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No!! Don't let him back in your life as a boy friend,it sounds like he's only after one thing and you know what that is,keep your distance and tell him that you just want to remain friends. If he can't handle that and gets vialent then you know the next step,(The Cops)
2006-12-10 07:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CREEPY. This guy obvioulsy hasn't been around much. Does he carry a video camera around and films dead pigeons and grocery bags that the carried by the wind? Never a good sign. Stay away from freak boy.
2006-12-10 07:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by guicho79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, RED FLAG alert. Guys tell me this kind of stuff all the time when I first go out with them. Wait until YOU are ready. Love takes time to build and grow Dont fall for his lines. "Atcions speak louder then words" make sure sex is not all he is after...Always make him earn and respect your heart first.
Take it from some one who knows this kind of guy well.
2006-12-10 08:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he moving too fast?
If you have to ask this question then the answer is always: YES! He is moving too fast!! You said you weren’t comfortable with it and that is enough. DO NOT go out with him again. You will find someone else.
2006-12-10 07:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you didn't mention your age but i think that you are too young!! Second i think that if you like this guy you should take him back but talk to him and tell him again that you won't have sex with him
2006-12-10 07:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋