I'm 15 and a virgin and I am scared to have sex. People say that I'm stupid for that and it will happen eventually so what is there to be scared of. But I feel that I should be scared of anything i want to. There is no pressure problem, no one has pressured me to have sex but I'm scared that I'll be afraid forever and never be able to please a man even if I want to.
2006-12-10 07:40:43 · 15 answers · asked by lolly679 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you have every right to feel the way you do. But just know there is nothing wrong with sex...it is natural. When you love someone, things will just work out...you will know when it is time...you won't be afraid of it forever.
2006-12-10 07:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Sihaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are completely normal, and certainly not wrong.
Lots of people are scared of having sex.
You are completely right: you CAN be scared of whatever you want to be, and it's NOT stupid. Ok maybe it's kind of silly to be scared of something like a Reese's Peanut Butter Cup, but you get what I mean.
I'm not telling you to not be afraid of sex. It's scary. Either somebody wants to stick a strange appendage into you, or they want you to stick a strange appendage into them (or.. well.. yeah).
You won't be afraid forever. Someday (hypothetically speaking) you'll have your first. Hopefully, this first will be loving, and understanding. Maybe they'll be as nervous as you! Maybe they'll have more experience and will want to help and guide you. Either way, if you're with the right person, someone that fits yours wants and needs, then gradually you'll be able to adjust. There are ways to learn about pleasing a man, that you can learn. I'm not saying buy a fornication textbook, but I'm saying that you can always change and improve.
I hope this wasn't too awkward of an answer, I hope that you can keep your own beliefs strong and make the right decisions for you, and I wish you well.
2006-12-10 07:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be scared. Its just like riding a bike. LOL
But dont let anyone ever pressure you into doing something you dont want do. You are your own person and you call the shots. You are not stupid for making a right choice. You have the right to be afraid of whatever it is. Yes It will happen but you choose with who and when. you will eventually know when the time is right to have sex. You will not be afraid forever. Just be careful who you have sex with and dont make yourself look bad. have some respect for yourself. You will thank yourself later in life.
2006-12-10 07:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by your papi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre only 15 you have the right to be scared. You are not stupid at all. You will not be scared for life you are a high schooler and even after you graduate you still might be scared but you will grow out of it in time. You made a good decision to ask people. God bless you
2006-12-10 07:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pleased to hear your scared, maybe you realise the consequences of having sex, even if you use a condom (they can break) you may be one of the girls that do it once and fall pregnant. Enjoy your youth and teenage years. When the time is right it could be 5 years from now you wont be scared it will feel very right. Stay true to yourself, thats why you have a brain to think for yourself. Otherwise you would be a robot and other people would be controlling you. You are human and choosing to use your brain. Cheers to you
2006-12-10 07:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by Bev J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 08:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. at 15 you should be afraid to have sex.. this just means you are mature enough to know that in many ways you are not ready yet. when you ARE ready, you won't be scared. and say in 5 or 6 years you are still feeling like you have some sort of illogical fear... then talk to a psychologist or something..because sometimes that type of thing happens. but no hunny, you are perfectly normal. and coming from experience, i say hang onto that fear! sex is MUCH better when you are in a loving, long term, relationship. i'm married now.. and i have never had better, more meaningful, or more fulfilling sex than now.... phsyically or emotionally..... its amazing what being in love (and might i chance to say married) can do!!
2006-12-10 07:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by MnKLmT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry having sex is like playing a sport it is something u eventually get good at doing,follow your mind and wait until u are ready 15 is too young to be sexually active and u can be afraid of just about anything ,continue to be the person u are and u wont be looking back on your life wishing u could go back and change things.
2006-12-10 07:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by leecy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
quit worrying kiddo. There's not one thing wrong with you being apprehensive about losing your virginty. You're being smart, what's wrong with that? Forever's a mighty long time, and you'll know when you're ready. Just be sure it's you being ready and not just wishing to please the other person entirely. Sex is pleasurable, but it should be pleasurable for both. As Jodie Foster said in the movie 'Nell', "U member dat."
2006-12-10 07:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by donewithyahooanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubts about having sex then you are not ready yet. You will know when it is right for you.
Don't listen to those who tell you otherwise- they are the ones who won't finish high school because they have had babies while still teenagers.
Stay safe and always protect yourself.
2006-12-10 07:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by betsyssi2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋