I'm 17 and my friend, let's call him Joseph, is 19. I'm a senior in high school & he's a college student.
We both take classes at his college, and after class we always go somewhere to eat and hang out. He's really funny, he's mature, he always makes jokes, and he's very polite to me. He opens the door for me so I can go in first & he even pulled me seat out for me one time.
He calls me late at night sometimes just to talk to me and he sends me text messages in 3 different languages (because we both speak three different languages), and we say things to each other like "I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow." He said I'm nice and awesome and he likes my lip gloss.
I can tell he likes to be around me and I like to be around him too, but my question is... Why hasn't he asked me out yet? Neither of us are dating anyone, and I'm ready to go to the next level. I'd like to call him and ask him this very question, but I don't want to freak him out or get rejected. What should I do?
2006-12-10 07:26:15 · 19 answers · asked by Exotic traveler 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My other question was: are we already dating?? We hang out after class, we went to see a movie together, it's always just the two of us... is he already my boyfriend? Or is it more explicit than that? (We haven't done any kissing.)
2006-12-10 07:28:05 · update #1
OK, this probably sounds crazy too, but I even made a list of things that I like about him, with 5 main adjectives to describe him. I thought once about call him and telling him all the things I like about him, but I don't want to seem like I'm desperate. Arrgh! So confused!
2006-12-10 07:32:04 · update #2
He also took me to this place with a piano and started playing a song for me that he said he wanted to show me. He played the song from memory on the piano while I sat there and listened.
And when we went to see that movie together, he paid the $10 for my ticket with his credit card even though I brought enough money to pay for myself. I tried to pay him back, but he insisted that I keep the money.
All of this seems like very boyfriend-y kind of behaviour, but I don't think we're at the level of boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't want to bluntly ask him "why haven't you asked me out" or "will you go out with me" either. I worry that if I keep waiting, he'll never ask me out. We've known each other for 4 months already. But if I ask him out, he might say no.
2006-12-10 08:50:28 · update #3
hes 19 ur 17 think about it but any way take ur chances wait and see what happens maybe he thinks ur to young or just dosent see u as girlfriend material
2006-12-10 07:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by ashantiea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, what it looks like to me is very common. he probably does like you, but unfortunately is too shy to ask you, this actually is a good quality when you think about it, it means he respects you and considers you to be above him. Go ahead and tell him, or break the social law and ask him out yourself (OMG A GURL JEST ASKED OUT A GUY!!!111!!eleven!!) Chances are he will accept, although he may be nervous. In the sleight chance that he doesn't, oh well, this doesn't mean that you can't be friends the same way, in fact if he doesn't already like you like he would a girlfriend, this may cause him to.
2006-12-10 15:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He maybe shy about it, but I wouldnt outright ask the question about what is going on. As far as it looks...he is NOT your boyfriend. Unless he explicitely refers to you as his girlfriend, or asks to be exclusive, you are not considered to be in a commited relationship.
The only way I would bring it up is through teasing or joking, finding the right opportunity to mention it (this will be more like a small prod) to see his reaction. If he doesnt react the way you hoped, you may be hanging with some one that really likes spending time with you, but is not ready to be commited or perhaps doesnt like you in that way.
If you have to wonder...than you know that you are not in one.
2006-12-10 15:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the answer. It's simple. He is a guy. A male. Some guys are dumb, and just don't know how girls feel. Even though my avatar is a guy, I'm not. I'm a girl...but anyways...
Just tell him how you feel. Maybe he is too nervous to ask you out, because you two are so perfect for eachother. Maybe that's why he might think you don't like him enough for him to ask you out.
Give him hints that you like him. Maybe he'll catch on....
2006-12-10 15:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by jakeyisthemess157 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is shy and afraid of the same thing.. rejection and freaking you out. Sounds like you are just going to have to make the first move.
2006-12-10 15:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by dodgechica89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, go ahead ask him out! He maybe shy to do the asking...eh? He seems like a nice guy and WONT just hurt you. Plus, life is TOO short to be beating around the bush.
2006-12-10 15:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by HAPPY <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's probably what everyone will say, but you probably just need to talk to him. Maybe he doesn't know if you like him?
Just tell him that you like him and that you'd like to get more serious and you'd like to go on some more dates and see where things lead.
2006-12-10 15:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by justme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he is just looking for a friend with benefits, and he is waiting that you give the first step
2006-12-10 15:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he says he likes ur lip gloss im sure he wants to kiss u so just ask him if u guys are friendsor more than that because your realy not sure.
~jeff~
2006-12-10 15:30:46 · answer #9 · answered by jeff 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out , fortune favors the bold
2006-12-10 15:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by stinkypinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋