he ASKS HER OUT...." no thanks,"...and he says...WHY?,,,AND SHE SAYS...."because i am not interested, sorry!"....NOW I THOUGHT THAT MEANT IN NICE WORDS....'back off"...but she said it nicely... WHY DO MOST MEN NOT " GET IT?""" OR IF you were to say...."Oh, no thanks, i just like you as a friend"....doesn't that just tell them the same.?????..that is what i had thought that had meant...WHY are men sooo thick headed??? now i know this will upset someone. so i am sorry...
2006-12-10 07:09:24 · 6 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not tell men you just like them as a friend. You are being ambiguous and giving them hope. I know you don't understand it because you're a woman, but short of not even acknowledging the guy, you will be giving the guy hope.
If you tell him he has a one in a million shot, he will think he has a chance. Be direct. Say "I'm not going out with you ever." Say "I'm never going to be interested." Do not tack on "in a million years." You are giving him hope that maybe in a million years, you will be interested in him.
If he asks for a reason, tell him "You're too ":
Fat
Short
Ugly
Dirty
Hairy
Smelly
Bald
Stupid
Poor
etc. etc.
You have plenty to choose from. It's not that men are thick headed. It's that women are not direct. Learn to speak directly, without any double meaning or hidden meaning or implied meaning. I don't know why it's so hard to do. It's so simple it hurts.
2006-12-10 21:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an EGO thing with inmature men because they have so little experience with REJECTION. They have also been told HOW SPECIAL they are by their family since birth.
I have to tell a story.
Thirty years ago at a convention with adult beverages involved. There was a guy in the group that was NOT what a woman would consider a "HOTTIE" and a bet was made. Over the next year he had to sleep with 26 women alphabetically by first name. The pay off if he did was RT A/F for two to anyplace in the US and $500.
He took the bet and left only to return two-hours later with two women on his arm. He said, "This is Alice and Betty and I think that it was in order". The two girls just laughed.
He won the bet and told us he got turned down over 2,000 times.
He actually married Zelda becauae she liked his confidence and sense of humor. They are both old and gray now, but still HAPPY.
Good Luck,
Jacques
2006-12-10 15:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by jacquesstcroix 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men seem to automatically turn their hurt feelings over rejection into anger and vindictiveness at the woman who turned them down. This can come off as seeming like he thinks he is entitled by god to any woman he asks or something. But it is more about hurt than anything else. Men tend to lash out when hurt and women tend to turn it on themselves. So a woman might be hurt if a man asks out someone else instead of her, but she doesn't go up to him and say, "So you think you're better than me, asshole?"
2006-12-10 15:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People don't like rejection so it's not odd that someone may question the rejection, or even try to reject the rejection...
...it's not so much that they don't "get it" but that hey don't like the answer and hope to get a different one...sometimes their approach is a bit poor though...but again, they are stinging from rejection and so not at their best...
2006-12-10 15:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
men will not understand the female mind or body until they have their u know whats cut off. Your cause is a lost cause
2006-12-10 15:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by dasexyestcowindaworld 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because you just kicked his
esteem & poor ego.
o.o
& he totally cant believe someone
as "hot" as him
will get rejected.
*tsktsk*
2006-12-10 15:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by lilbr0wnsuga 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋