i think my boyfriends cheating on me?

Question

I have recently caught my boyfriend in a lie about him wanting to stay home and not hangout with me cuz he was tired then he ended up going out with his friends to a bar and drinking any ignoring all my concerned phone calls. we were in the middle of talking and he just basically hungup on me (pretended he had no service) and finally called me at 6 am i told him hes a liar he lied about wanting to not go out he lied about not being able to call me . he has done funny business before my trust for him has decreased so much in the past 6 months. ive even asked him if he has ever cheated on me before because of rumors and he denys it and says if u cant trust me then we cant be together cuz ur always going to think im cheating. but he gives me reason to think he is i think i should just end it. i cant put up with liars i know no one is perfect but why lie about it? and why isnt he kissing my *** 3 days later? he has been cheated on before and said its horrible why would he do it to me

ive never caught him cheating though. and he completely denies it after bringing it up all this time. hes like ur my future why would i cheat on u i wanna marry u i just never thought he was a cheater and if he ever did cheat he d confess. i cant deal with liars tho. he wants to get married eventually but my trust isnt 100% and i cant help it he gives me reason

The rumors were coming from a unreliable source. so im not 100% he has cheating so far he says he can never do that its the worst thing in the world. my uncle was cheating on his wife when i introduced my boyfriend to him my boyfriend wouldnt even shake his hand he thinks cheating is so wrong. this is why i am confused

Answer 1

I would dump him.... He is acting immature for one thing and since he may cheated on you once, he will do it again since he knows you will come back.... Just watch it because rumors are rumors....

Answer 2

Babydoll, its like this. If u feel as though in your gut that he's cheating or doing something behind closed doors, then leave. Its easier to do that than sit back and wondering or doing undercover work. I mean if u want to know well I wouldn't call CHEATERS!, but hey u do what u feel u need to do to get the info u need to close this chapter in your life. Whenever I had a thought that my boyfriend was cheating I would confront him and watch his tone and his eye movements. I would also see if he was defensive or nervous. If he was any of these things then I would just take time to let him know that I needed to have space and I couldn't trust him right now. Eventually, doing this made them open it up full blast and then the true person would come out. Those that were true would try to convience me that they were on the up and up. Dating is a 50-50 chance hun. Kind of like playing the lottery. Sometimes u strike it rich with a very good man and then u hit crap. I would suggest hun that if u feel he's cheating or even if u caught him in a lie then let him go anyway. It only brings your fears to light and then sometimes by then something else has happened if u get me. There is too many uncertainities out there like HIV AND AIDS! Hun please be careful. I think that u have already made up your mind and u are looking for someone to talk u out on it, but if u have decided to walk then by all means do it. If its meant to be it will be. Trust me when I say that it SO true. Hope this helps hun.

Answer 3

Oh sure he's cheating! a woman knows this we can just feel it!! so why would he lie like that? if he said he was going to be home then that's where he should have been! don't even think about marriage if he's doing all of this, because thing don't get any better trust me! ur should move on girl!

Answer 4

i just found out my boyfriend for four years was cheating. up until yesterday he wanted to marry me and have kids. he even denied it after i had proof. he might love you and everything, but doesn't respect you enough to be honest. please dont be fooled judt because you can't prove it. if you don't have honesty and trust..then IT WILL NOT WORK. may work now, maybe couple years, maybe 10 more years, but you will never be happy. and this feeling will NEVER go away. end it while your young and you can definetly find someone that you care about even more. believe me, it's hard, but you can do it.

Answer 5

Sounds like you are a bit clingy......because of this behavior he most definitely has cheated on you.......he is only keeping you around for a back up lay. you should of dumped his behind a long time ago when you first noticed "funny business." You really need to move on. You don't trust him. Where there is "no trust" there really is no relationship.....you are only making yourself miserable.

Answer 6

He's lied and/or cheated multiple times? And you are still with him? You don't need this. Find another man who doesn't feel the need to lie to you.

Of course, you could be overly worried. He may not have wanted to hurt your feelings and say "I need time with the guys".

So balance it out carefully. But if there is no trust why bother?

Answer 7

you got to move on cause why is it that you feel as though he is cheating, he must be doing something wrong. If he can hang out with his boys instead of you , he can continue to do that alone. so go find someone else

Answer 8

Girl you deserve better,move on with your life and act like you just don't care.
Or maybe he's planning a surprise party for you.Or he wants to get you something nice.

Answer 9

if your catching him in lies then you already know what the answer is i would gid rid of him and save your self from the heartache it will hurt now but you will be better off in the long run trust me been there done that

Answer 10

Some guys are just rude dogs! It is a male thing i think! Time to get rid of him, you deserve someone with class and not no loser, liar,cheater,selffish,bad seed and ect......