My Boyfriend asked me to marry him and I said yes but he still hasn't given me a ring ( it's been over 2 years ) . Does it matter that he hasn't given me a ring? Should it matter ? Help Me please.
2006-12-10 06:40:46 · 20 answers · asked by angelique1279 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no it doesnt matter. Be happy! tell whoever!
2006-12-10 10:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years is a long time to wait for a ring. Do you have doubts about this relationship? Do you and your boyfriend/fiancé have good communication? Can you sit down with him and ask him about this situation? If you are having money problems that is not an excuse why he has not save a couple bucks each week. By now you would have a wonderful ring. I remember I would get so anxious about the ring I didn't have yet and one day I just forgot about it and that is when he popped the question. Hmm....Christmas is right around the corner. Maybe linger around the jewelry counters when you are at the stores with him. I mean have you been dating for two years or 5 years? I think that you both have been together long enough to be able to sit down and talk this out. You know this is the new age. You can surprise him with the question again to let him know you really want this to happen. Just a thought!! Good Luck.
2006-12-10 15:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by psyjessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was asked to be married, and was "engaged" for two years with no ring AND no wedding... I'd be kicking him to the curb. What is taking him so long?
To me, it isn't about if you should tell people you are engaged... it is about are you REALLY engaged?
If there is a valid reason for a 2 year engagement (like graduate school or similar) or that you are in your teens (which then I think an engagement is foolish) there is NO REASON that you should not have SOME ring by now.
If money is the object, even a 'placeholder' ring would be better than none since traditionally when a man proposes, he HAS a ring! (Where he gives you a promise ring that doesn't cost so much, and replaces it later) My concern is that you are being naive after 2 years.
2006-12-10 14:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Gater 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Owning a ring has little to do with an honest engagement. Have you two talked about getting married since? If there has been serious talk about marriage then it shouldn't be out of the question that you'd at least mention to family or friends that he's asked you to marry him and that you're excited. However, if he asked and that was the last time it was ever mentioned between the two of you, I'd suggest talking with him before talking to anyone else, as mentioning to other people that you are engaged could be quite a surprise to him if he doesn't remember popping the question or worse, doesn't want to be married afterall.
Communicate with your partner and you'll know when the time is right for you to sart grooming friends and family for engagement and/or wedding gifts.
2006-12-10 14:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by charli.brown 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has a wedding day been set. That is more important than the ring.
It would be nice to have a ring of some kind even if he can't afford a diamond. But your not marring the ring. Just make sure u are going to get married the ring still might show up.
2006-12-10 18:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by dracoen2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
Usually it is tradition to give an engagement ring, my father didn't have a ring right away, but got it not to long after. I would sit down and talk about it with him and tell him how you feel. If both of you are meant to be, the conflict will be resolved in no time. Hope this helps.
Wee Man.
2006-12-10 17:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by boychuka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends. Are you actively planning the wedding? Have you discussed it? Or is it something that he mentioned in passing and has been forgotten?
If he intends to go through with it, then I wouldn't say you necessarily need a ring. But, if there has been no further movement towards the marriage, then I think you should have a serious talk and ask him where your relationship is going and why you haven't even started planning to get married in 2 years.
2006-12-10 17:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are asking this question, it obviously matters to you. Two years should have been more than enough time for him to save up to buy you a ring.
2006-12-10 15:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can tell people but you aren't engaged. No ring no wedding date and after two years no one knows? That is not an engagement.
2006-12-10 14:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
to quote a radio talk show host...
engaged = ring and wedding date set. Anything else isn't being "engaged."
The term is horribly abused by people who are shacking up and want to keep relatives from complaining.
2006-12-10 14:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by geek49203 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have always been told that if you were asked to be married some type of ring is required or it is not a real thing. I think that if a man is serious about it then he will have a band of some sort, even if it is a $50 gold band.
2006-12-10 14:49:54 · answer #11 · answered by redheadedmess 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋